"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Friend setting me up

search1ng

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Hey guys, friends setting me up with some women in a new town for me,

only thing is I'm totally new to the area and not such a well accomplished DJ able to adapt to all situations yet, this being one of them.

Basically, I'm in this new town for a month, arrived 3 days ago and don't know where anything fun is so I'm somewhat out of ideas. First meeting i guess I could go for the usual coffee/lunch/ whatever ... hmmm, should be interesting to see how things go i guess. In the long run, this would be something similar to a cold approach+date?

Never was a big fan of the cold approach ...

Ideas would be welcome,
cheers guys.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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aomega54

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You can use this as a perfect opportunity to expand your skills.

It is when you're out of your comfort zone that you grow the most so f*ck getting set up by your friends.... that leads nowhere, but reliance on your friends to set you up.

Instead, ask yourself: what is it that you don't like about the cold approach?

AO
 

search1ng

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Most of my approaches have always been somewhat 'cold'. I moved towns for uni, etc. Completely new settings. So I'm not a stranger to the concept, I've just grown used to 'knowing,' what will happen, comfort in the settings/environment i had made.

I didn't ask my friend to set me up, he just did it for me, and hey, why not take the opportunity anyway, I've never had a friend set me up before so i figure it'll be interesting. But, again, it feels completely new for some strange reason, hence my reaction.
 

zekko

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Getting set up is not the ideal situation because it makes a woman wonder why you can't get women on your own. But in this case, being the new kid in town, I don't see anything wrong with it. You might meet someone you like, and it's a great opportunity to practice. She'll probably ask you about your life back home, so have something in mind to say that doesn't make you sound too pathetic :)
 
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