Friend gets all the girls

[Full Moon2]

And he's doing everything this site tells you not to. He's a nice guy, very polite... and very popular in my social group. Last week him, me and a few girls were at a fair together, he was walking in front of us. Well some lady dropped a 20 dollar bill. He picked it up, gave it to her, smiled and kept walking. The girls we were with still bring that up about how great of a guy he is. And I admit he is good-looking, but this guy is never ****y. I've never heard him insult anyone. He even talks to some of the nerdy people we work with, just like they were anyone else. He's a very humble person and the women are still lined up for him.

Should I try this?

 

[onyx]

it seems like your questioning him picking up the 20 dollar bill and handing it back..like its too nice or something and he should have kept it...it isn't been nice its the right thing to do. You don't have to insult someone to be good with women either, have you read the bible?

 

[Full Moon2]

Yeah I read it. But everything the bible says to do, this guy doesnt.

here, this is him

http://img522.imageshack.us/img522/2726/image1eh9.jpg

 

[woogalie]

What are you some sort of thieving Don Juan? Girls admire an honest guy. and girls also like guys who are cool/popular with everyone, even nerds. It shows character when your cool to even the less cool people.

Don Juans arent d!cks... I dont think you understand the don juan term "jerk"

 

[penkitten]

did you ever get a chance to watch stan lee's "who wants to be a superhero?" last year?
the guy that won, the guy that got the comic deal was a genuinely nice guy. he is the guy that made sure he didn't compromise himself just to win.
he was on a clock with a time limit and still find time to take his gloves off to help a lady get all her money she spilled on the ground. you could tell he wanted to hurry and rush, but he didn't. he helped her.
the guy never talked bad about the co-superhero contestants and was just as gosh darn nice about things as he could be.
he is the one that stan lee choose, and he is the one everyone cheered for at the end.
perhaps your friend has a genuine soul and is a hero you should be looking up to.

don't be jealous of your friend, he'll have your back one day.

 

[Interceptor]

Sounds great, penkitten.
But tell me, be honest, these character traits are "sexy" to you?
Do they attract you even more to a man?
I'm not down on these things at all, I just want to understand the impact, if any, in terms of sexual attraction.
Sometimes, women perceive "nice" as "not sexy".

 

[penkitten]

Sounds great, penkitten.
But tell me, be honest, these character traits are "sexy" to you?
Do they attract you even more to a man?
I'm not down on these things at all, I just want to understand the impact, if any, in terms of sexual attraction.
Sometimes, women perceive "nice" as "not sexy".

perhaps because i would have stopped to help the person pick up their money, that i find it compassionate that someone else would. its things like that, that make me think we can be better people.

if i were a single chick and i was walking with a single man who stopped to pick up someones money and gave it back to them, i would have trust for that person. if i saw him pocket the money, i would be afraid he would steal out of my purse if i went to the bathroom.

 

[DJDamage]

Your confusing DJ to be a jerk, which in actuality a DJ is a nice guy with a backbone.

It sounds as if your friend doesn't feel the need to impress anyone or cares what anyone thinks of him and therefore he is way ahead of where you are.

 

[aussiegoat55]

Yeah, he has confidence, is a real man, and he knows how to treat people. It's this interaction with people that make him a different type of alpha male and thats make him a real man.

Check out this article,...

http://incestabuse.about.com/od/formales/a/realmen.htm

It almost parallels your situation.

Don't compare yourself to him, don't think that by being like him is the easy fix for getting girls. Imitation is suicide.

Think about all the natural real men out there, did they go to websites like sosuave.net to find out how to attact girls? Of course not! It was their natural selfs, their confidence, the fact that they were real man that attracted the girls. So strive to be a real man of integrity, decency, courage, confidence, humor, intelligence, and diversity. Work on improving yourself and the girls will notice you.

 

[Sagacity]

This isn't exactly the advice you were asking for, but it may come in handy anyway. As woogalie said, "Girls admire an honest guy." So if you're going to b.s. about having famous friends, you may want to Google them first to check that they're still actually alive (the one you picked has been dead for eight years as of 16 July). Or maybe pick one that's not so famous. I mean, really. John-John? Gimme a break. Your friend's picture http://img522.imageshack.us/img522/2726/image1eh9.jpg also appears on his online memorial: http://www.jfkjronline.com/galleries/displayimage.php?album=3&pos=77

No wonder you're having trouble, dude.