"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Friend backstabs me with girl thats friends w/ benefits w/ me

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So I was dating this girl Sara for a three weeks and everything was going well and she was about to be my gf. I'm 20 and she was going to be 18 in about a week when I found out that she lied about her age and was turning 17 and not 18. So I tell her to **** off and to not talk to me. Then after about a week she texts me and we talk for a bit and I tell her the only thing we could be is friends with benefits. So then that goes on for a month and a half off and on (I would get pissed at her and tell her not to talk to me then I would change my mind because I wanted easy and consistent *****). Then after a couple of weeks of not talking to her we hang out one night and hook up and everythings chill again, then I find out she's been hanging out with my friend but insists they are just friends and shes never kissed him. My friend's a dealer and I guess they were dealing drugs together. So I take her word for it (even though she's lied numerous times in the past) and we plan to hang out at her house in 2 days when her parents aren't there and we would have a night to drink and chill and ****.

Then that day we were going to hang out shes chilling with her friend (she doesn't like me) and they come up with the idea that I'm mean to her and treat her like **** so she says shes too tired to hang out and that I'm mean to her anyway but she wants to hangout the next day. So then I'm chilling with my guy friend and I hit up my buddy Jon to see what's up and he's like what you do last night. I tell him I was gonna hang out with that girl but she flaked on me after we planned for the past two days to hang out then. So I get a call 5 minutes later from Sara and says that she just talked to Jon and he said that I said that Sara was dieing to hangout with me, which is total bs. So pretty much my buddy twisted my words around to make it sound like I was making **** up to get her pissed at me. So then he hangs out with her and the friend that doesn't like me and they start talking mad **** and throwing me under the bus. Then the next day she comes over to take a look at my car (cuz she ****ed it up and she was going to pay for it) and she hugs me and was touchy feely and we talk for a few minutes about what happened and she says she wants to hang out that night. Then she flakes again by not picking up my calls and then when i ask her the next day wat happened she says "You did it to yourself" and I say "wtf are you talking about?" and she hasn't responded since.

So bottomline what would you guys do about my friend who twisted my words around and then hangs out with the girl I was recently dating and still hanging out with. She insists they are just friends and haven't kissed but i know thats bs. So **** her. But this was my friend of 3 years and he pulls a grimy ass move to get her pissed at me so he could come up on this girl. That's what I'm mainly pissed about. But how would you handle the situation with the both of them???
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Conquer

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f.u.c.k you (claiming to be LT)
 

Accension

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More paragraphs would be nice.

Well, obviously she's your only plate and she's a shi7 plate.
I know you probably just want her to be a good plate and 'fix' it but even if you glue a shi7 plate together; it's still going to be broken and cra7py.

She's crossed your boundaries so many times; is what she gives you worth the trouble she causes you?

As for your equally shi7 friend, you ought to have a talk to him and let him know he's being a true-blue as7hole for a piece of as7 over a 3 year friendship.

Make sure he knows what you expect of him.

Only your friend sounds really crap7y and will probably just ditch you, get pis7ed off and hang with that girl and her friends.
Lose the girl and the 'friend', neither were really there in the first place.

Don't take their shi7.
 

Cinamon

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I agree with Accension, you would be better of without the both of them in ur life. Dont give them the satisfaction of knowing they hurt you, move on to the next woman and pre-warn the next girl with subtlty that ur mate is a sh!t stirrer.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Gangster Of Love

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LaDanian Tomlinson said:
So I was dating this girl Sara for a three weeks and everything was going well and she was about to be my gf. I'm 20 and she was going to be 18 in about a week when I found out that she lied about her age and was turning 17 and not 18. So I tell her to **** off and to not talk to me. Then after about a week she texts me and we talk for a bit and I tell her the only thing we could be is friends with benefits. So then that goes on for a month and a half off and on (I would get pissed at her and tell her not to talk to me then I would change my mind because I wanted easy and consistent *****). Then after a couple of weeks of not talking to her we hang out one night and hook up and everythings chill again, then I find out she's been hanging out with my friend but insists they are just friends and shes never kissed him. My friend's a dealer and I guess they were dealing drugs together. So I take her word for it (even though she's lied numerous times in the past) and we plan to hang out at her house in 2 days when her parents aren't there and we would have a night to drink and chill and ****.

Then that day we were going to hang out shes chilling with her friend (she doesn't like me) and they come up with the idea that I'm mean to her and treat her like **** so she says shes too tired to hang out and that I'm mean to her anyway but she wants to hangout the next day. So then I'm chilling with my guy friend and I hit up my buddy Jon to see what's up and he's like what you do last night. I tell him I was gonna hang out with that girl but she flaked on me after we planned for the past two days to hang out then. So I get a call 5 minutes later from Sara and says that she just talked to Jon and he said that I said that Sara was dieing to hangout with me, which is total bs. So pretty much my buddy twisted my words around to make it sound like I was making **** up to get her pissed at me. So then he hangs out with her and the friend that doesn't like me and they start talking mad **** and throwing me under the bus. Then the next day she comes over to take a look at my car (cuz she ****ed it up and she was going to pay for it) and she hugs me and was touchy feely and we talk for a few minutes about what happened and she says she wants to hang out that night. Then she flakes again by not picking up my calls and then when i ask her the next day wat happened she says "You did it to yourself" and I say "wtf are you talking about?" and she hasn't responded since.

So bottomline what would you guys do about my friend who twisted my words around and then hangs out with the girl I was recently dating and still hanging out with. She insists they are just friends and haven't kissed but i know thats bs. So **** her. But this was my friend of 3 years and he pulls a grimy ass move to get her pissed at me so he could come up on this girl. That's what I'm mainly pissed about. But how would you handle the situation with the both of them???
Your writing makes very difficult to understand exactly what you are trying to communicate, yet I gathered a couple of observations after glancing at it.

Sounds like you got some quality friends there.

So let's see, we got a girl who lies about her age, a drug dealer, and a statutory rapist. Sounds like the girl is the one with the higher morals here.
 
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