Fried reports 6 dates

[flowtheory]

You can.

If she asks: ‘Why do you always speak in double entendres?’
You reply: ‘I’d like to double your entendre.’



Come on bro, you have been on six dates in 10 days, and you are asking this?

Didn’t feel ‘spark’ of chemistry = No attraction.

1. Shave the beard
2. If not in, get in shape
3. Get them isolated
4. Make a move

These girls are not looking for stimulating logical in depth conversation about world affairs. They are looking to get pounded 18 different ways from Sunday. You guys tend to overthink this game stuff.

Lmao
Yea okay okay true true. I should definitely shave this animal on my face; it’s wild. My coworkers says my name should be Muhammad or Grizzly Adams

Everything else isn’t a problem; moves, fit (surfer body) and isolating.
I think it’s the beard and engaging in too introspectively deep conversations about worldly perspectives and stoicism or something.
Yes; because they never have much to offer in terms of conversation come to think of it; they sort of just sit there - interested in what I’m saying - with wide eyes saying ‘wow that’s so interesting’ haha. Guess it’s different with women we’re trying to get with.

My few dates this week I will dial the deep talk from a 9 down to a 2 and just say one single poetic thing as I stare in to the sunset, while everything else I will just be about doubling their entendres and escalating in a fun way to Illicit her emotions.
Learning!

I find it to be my learning curve to put on different parts of myself at different times; the art of adapting to the current circumstances is crucial in life. But it’s anout knowing which sense of self to adapt to

 

[oldmanofthesea]

She should be doing 80-90% of the talking. The rest should be you drilling down on what she says.

 

[flowtheory]

She should be doing 80-90% of the talking. The rest should be you drilling down on what she says.

And we just ask questions, say something with a double meaning, and say statements about what she said?
I find most women are quite silent on dates if they aren’t prompted; they don’t just talk..

This is where I usually step in an lead the convo and start just talking about really big and very awesome ideas.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Guys generally have to lead the conversations with women. It's masculine to lead a conversation. And everyone's favorite thing to talk about is themselves. But the woman should be contributing too - not as much as the guy, but she has to do her part to keep the conversation going, at least enough to demonstrate that she is WILLING to put forth that effort.

It shouldn't just be a job interview - Rather than asking one question after another that are unrelated, ask a question about something and when she gives you an answer, your next question should drill down on that. And try to focus on things that bring up emotions.

I'm not sure I follow you on the double meaning stuff - I mean, I don't think you need to work/try that hard. A lot of people (men or women) aren't going to catch it and if they do, they may get a smarmy vibe from you that a woman would describe as "not cute" - like you're trying to talk over their heads to get your kicks and then they start wondering how much of that you've already done that they didn't catch. You can if you want to but I have found trying to be extremely clever is exhausting and puts me into a mindset of trying to impress her rather than doing things that make her want to try to impress me, and qualify herself to me.

Back to leading the conversation - if you are doing that and she just keeps going dead-silent after you've lead the conversation, you can use the silent pause. It's going to be awkward AF, but it's critical that you don't show it. When she goes silent, you pause for a few seconds, then you raise your eyebrows, move your head down and forward, and form a look of expectation like, "WELL....... this is your turn" and just stare at her like that silently. If she doesn't react to that and start talking then stay silent for a few more seconds making sure you don't look uncomfortable - in fact, you should stretch out a little bit in order to ensure she sees that you are totally comfortable just sitting there in complete silence with her. Then you can re-start the conversation yourself but when you do it, use just a touch of sarcasm in your tone of voice and make the topic of question obviously lame like, "Sooooooo...... how's it going?".

 

[Mazer]

If one is always saying sexual comments or inneuendos, won’t that work against a man?
I mean, I can do that if required. However, overly doing that could get tiring or be seen as scummy, no?

Does a man have to be excitable and super gregarious to be constantly successful with women he is pursuing? I feel like it’s putting on a dancing monkey suit in a way.

I have a quite mellow personality; introspective. However I can be opinionated and dominate at the same time when need be to hold my own.
I’m having difficulty trying to frame it in my mind to be that man who is super fun to be around yet still carry the weight of that highly intelligent mind, though being seen as highly sexual and exciting.
Although I wouldn’t say I’m “whoa so much fun!! Kind of guy” and in your face colour.

As of recent dates I’m falling too much to the side of intelligent and interesting, rather than exciting and “I want to sleep with him.”
Because I always get women who intently listen to what I am saying, but not looking at me with the ‘I want your d!ck eyes’
And how does a man go about this?

I was having poor results on my dates until I started using more sexual innuendos. She will not find your sexual comments sleezy if you keep it light, funny and fits into the conversation.