freaky...

[djbr]

I asked out this woman, and she gave some lame excuse.

And I said: well, ok. Let's do it another time. Take care. (buh-bye!!)

Suddenly, she said something like: ok, I meet you there at 2pm. (insert some cheap talk here, like I go there, then I do that then I go to the place I'm going to see you).

I said something like: no, no. You can't, that's ok. We talk later.

After some minutes (she tried to persuade me to accept her idea change) she gave up and said: ok, ok, bye.

I decided to NEXT her, and feel good about it. BUT what I can't get (that's why I'm asking, duh) is: why she said no and then tried to change her answer?

yuck...

 

[johnny_chase]

wtf dude, i cant even make sense of that shyte. Please clarify.

From what i gather, she said no, then said yes. So you should have gone.

Who cares about why she changed her mind. Are you posting this to ask a serious question, or to tell us a story?>

 

[djbr]

Sorry dude. I'm Brazilian. My english is crappy.

Actually, I was trying to do both, tell a story and ask a question.

Yes, she changed her mind.

Let me try to explain again

I told her to meet me at 2pm on some place, and she said NO.

Then I said: well, ok. Let's do it another time. Take care.

Fast as hell, she changed her mind. But I kept saying: no, ok, you can't, let's do it another time.

I was saying this UNTIL she gave up.

Look, I'm kinda new to all of this. I readed like hell, and started to do some field work. I'm STARTING, really. I can see big improvements, but sometimes I feel really confused. Usually, people here say things about when the girl say yes OR no. In my case, she said NO, THEN YES. But I stick with the NO.

I can't understand why this... that's what I'm asking.

Better now? (if not, I'll try to explain more and more, cause I HAVE TO improve my english skills, hehe )

 

[johnny_chase]

LOL, sorry about that. Your english is OK, just you didnt give very much information to begin with.

Look, if she initially says no, maybe she actually had something to do, i dont know. If she said yes to another time, why didnt you say: ok, give me your number, i will call you about it. Later.

 

[djbr]

The weird thing is that she said NO, and I just said: ok, see you later. bye.

IN THAT SECOND she changed her mind, and started saying "no no, it can be tomorrow, fine for me" and all of that.

 

[DJDamage]

The Thing about women you don't know is that at the begining they do often act flakey because they don't owe you anything.

Its up to you to see how you handle yourself when she throws you a curve ball. Up to the point where you said : "well, ok. Let's do it another time. Take care." - You did fine, you were in control and you never gave up.

She ended up seeing that you won't take her B.S and she ended up submitting to your request which was a good thing! but instead of being C&F and saying something like " hmmm ohh so now you are saying yes?? now its my turn to think about it lol" and see how she reacts to that.

Think about women like they are a fish and you are the fisherman with a silver shiney bait at the end of your rod. Are you gonna catch the fish if you pull hard one time when the fish nibbles on your bait???!!! or you are better off playing with your rod (no pun intended) by slowly pulling and pushing for a bit until the fish takes the bait??!!

 

[jakeyboy]

DJD hit the nail right on its bloody head. as usual he makes the most sense.

 

[sapphire]

It was sort of a test. You reacted just fine when her initial rejection did not phase you. Seeing that you were not phased, you passed the test and she rewarded you by agreeing to the date. Had you supplicated and begged her to go out, like most guys would have done, she would have probably written you off for good.