Mr. Personality
Don Juan
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So I just recently got out of a 2 year relationship this past July. Towards the end , I lost frame somewhat and started taking her seriously..
But this post is about the power of frame. So initially when my ex and I started messing around, she fell into my frame. We started messing around in September of 2018/2019, can’t remember the exact year. Anyways we started messing around in September, I was messing around with other women as I thought she was doing the same but always had a feeling she wasn’t. During this time I was probably my most indifferent towards her than i had ever been with any chick. She was certainly on the chase for me.
I was disciplined in my responses and probably took it too far but I didn’t care, I had other women. I also never divulged this to her, she would ask and I would joke about it, but never actually made it known.
So March rolls around and she goes to Cabo with her family. She’s gone for 10 days, snaps me every day and I answer sparingly. Long story short I sleep with this girl and get “caught …” I deny the incident but eventually she finds out and I basically said , it happened I did it. She had thought about cutting things off since she was “getting to invested” and thought I didn’t care at all…
I said it happened , I’m down to date exclusively and make you my GF. I went over one night and she goes “I’m just so attracted to you I can’t help it..”
So for 2 years we dated , and during those two years I was treated like a king. I even had her location on my phone. She didn’t have mine…
So prior to us going exclusive I had her on ice skates for about 8/9 months. We made it official that May… I’ll tell ya what. The value and joy this chick brought me was second to none. Now she wasn’t the crazy type and didn’t come from trauma but I like to attribute my frame setting the foundation for our relationship.
There were also times throughout where I would have a beta moment but because the frame was set from the beginning, it never affected the dynamic.
That is why I agree with Rollo that the frame that is set from the outset sets the frame for the length of that relationship. Even now, we’re broken up she still hits me up for sex and will even call me after dates. I’m still doing my thing too but you get the gist.
Before I end I do recall a **** test early on after we had had sex a couple times she texted me one Friday asking for a ride home from a club , I simply responded “no..” I was with this Brazilian girl but I smelled the **** test.
That Sunday night I went over there and I remember her saying “it was definitely worth the wait me not seeing you Friday …” I just smirked.
All in all, FRAME FRAME FRAME
But this post is about the power of frame. So initially when my ex and I started messing around, she fell into my frame. We started messing around in September of 2018/2019, can’t remember the exact year. Anyways we started messing around in September, I was messing around with other women as I thought she was doing the same but always had a feeling she wasn’t. During this time I was probably my most indifferent towards her than i had ever been with any chick. She was certainly on the chase for me.
I was disciplined in my responses and probably took it too far but I didn’t care, I had other women. I also never divulged this to her, she would ask and I would joke about it, but never actually made it known.
So March rolls around and she goes to Cabo with her family. She’s gone for 10 days, snaps me every day and I answer sparingly. Long story short I sleep with this girl and get “caught …” I deny the incident but eventually she finds out and I basically said , it happened I did it. She had thought about cutting things off since she was “getting to invested” and thought I didn’t care at all…
I said it happened , I’m down to date exclusively and make you my GF. I went over one night and she goes “I’m just so attracted to you I can’t help it..”
So for 2 years we dated , and during those two years I was treated like a king. I even had her location on my phone. She didn’t have mine…
So prior to us going exclusive I had her on ice skates for about 8/9 months. We made it official that May… I’ll tell ya what. The value and joy this chick brought me was second to none. Now she wasn’t the crazy type and didn’t come from trauma but I like to attribute my frame setting the foundation for our relationship.
There were also times throughout where I would have a beta moment but because the frame was set from the beginning, it never affected the dynamic.
That is why I agree with Rollo that the frame that is set from the outset sets the frame for the length of that relationship. Even now, we’re broken up she still hits me up for sex and will even call me after dates. I’m still doing my thing too but you get the gist.
Before I end I do recall a **** test early on after we had had sex a couple times she texted me one Friday asking for a ride home from a club , I simply responded “no..” I was with this Brazilian girl but I smelled the **** test.
That Sunday night I went over there and I remember her saying “it was definitely worth the wait me not seeing you Friday …” I just smirked.
All in all, FRAME FRAME FRAME