FR: Tried hooking up at a club

[Vanilla]

Ok long story short, there was a huge dance off that was sponsored by my dance studio. It was a ton of fun and my confidence was through the roof I couldn't just go home. I talked with some of the other dancers and they were heading to the club. So I decided to join them. When I got there, it was pretty crappy. It was a hotel club, so there wasn't much there. I set my standards pretty low and talked up this mediocre looking asian woman. Conversation went well and I told her that we should leave the club since she mentioned that the DJ was playing horrible music. The whole time I felt like I was awesome because the guys I was with just watched me get connected with a woman.

She left while I closed my tab. When she returned, she went over to the dance floor. I was confused at this point, but decided to join her. As I was getting close, she told me to back off and let her have her space. The guys I was with told me she was just testing me, but I was getting pissed off at her attitude. It was a turnoff.

At closing hour, she left with security. I don't know what I did wrong. My dancing was solid, I talked to her with total confidence but now I'm left with blue balls and she wasn't even attractive to begin with. I even had guys to show social proof. WTF

Bros, help.

 

[Cry For Love]

I feel you man, and the fact that you never get feedback really sucks.

Possible reasons, too clingy in beginning, not setting time constraints(say to the ***** "hey listen babe i gotta go back i only have a couple of moments to talk with u" so they feel you are scarce), those things tend to reduce attraction.

 

[Allurre]

You're way too conscious with your *social* proof and sharpening your game bro.

Never should you judge a woman so critically on her looks, it's degrading.

What happen is most likely someone told her you were trying to pick her up. It's fairly obvious when you suggested to leave the place.

Dancing and your social proof won't just cut it, it's in your interaction that counts.