Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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FR: St. Patty's Day Hookup

cactus3178

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Well, Goddamnit, I know St. Patty's is long over, but I'm too busy to come post this **** right away sometimes.

Anyway-

Me and a couple homies went out St. Patty's Day (night, of course) to a pretty popular club in the downtown. This place was so damn packed, the line was a half block long, and after almost an hour of not moving, we said **** it and decided to hit a place right down the street.

I was kinda bummed because this place is known (an Irish Pub) for it's crazy ass SPD parties.

The other club we hit was pretty packed, so we went in and grabbed some drinks. I had a couple and was on my way to the bathroom to take a piss, when I saw this hot ass blond (weird for me, since I like black hair much better). Gave the standard EC, kept on my way to the pisser, and on the way back, she stopped me and said "hey, I know you, what's your name". I said, "No, you don't, but my name is *****".

Conversated for a few, and I suggested that we go take a shot. She agreed, so we went up to the bar and ordered. Were sitting there bull****ting, and I can tell already she's an AW. Testing me with, "oh, I'm here with this guy, but I'd rather talk to you" type BS.

I play along, push-pull, and eventually, I say "Hey, I gotta go, were gonna hit a different club". She says "No, stay here with me", blah, blah.

10 minutes go by, more AW behavior, flirting around with random dudes. So I'm chatting up the cute bartender, asking her how to make certain shots, just BSing, and this HB AW gets weirdly almost jealous, WTF?

Finally, I tell her I'm leaving because I got bro's with me and I'm bored. She invites us to a party a few miles away at her house as it's almost 2am now. I resist and she practically begs me to come.

So I get the green light from the homies, and we go. As soon as we get there, she's like "come check out my room".

Okay.....

Some making out, then we go upstairs to get a drink. There's not a hell of alot of people there, but both my friends are macking they're own chicks, thank God....so I can take care of ****.

Anyway, we go back downstairs to her room and, OMFG, she's a biter and scratcher. Were still not done and the sun's coming up. She got her's but I was too drunk to get off, damnit.

Got the number. Supposed to go out this weekend.

It's not gonna go anywhere. She's a girl who I ****ed the first time I tried, a big red flag in my book, plus an AW. But a FB maybe.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hmm... hats off to ya for getting the close, but you didn't really work any skill. Besides not being a pushover. I guess you're just lucky but that's enough for ya. Though I doubt anyone learned from this. She was looking for a fvck just as much as you were. Lucky circuimstances, that's all.

*thumbs up*
 

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Keeper said:
Hmm... hats off to ya for getting the close, but you didn't really work any skill. Besides not being a pushover. I guess you're just lucky but that's enough for ya. Though I doubt anyone learned from this. She was looking for a fvck just as much as you were. Lucky circuimstances, that's all.

*thumbs up*

Yeah, I'll agree for the most part.

It's been so long since I posted a FR, though.

My point was that AW's are easily flipped 180 by ignoring they're bull****.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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