"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: Solid Subway Sarge (Need Input)

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After a long night of sarging and drinking, I am with my wing and we head into the subway station. (7AM) We don't know exactly where to go so he pulls the subway map and tells me to approach a girl to help us find out how to get to our destination.

I look around for a few minutes and I spot a solid HB 8 walking by herself.
"Can you help me get here." I tell her this in broken English. (I'm in Korea) She tries to explain it to me and then she just says how about I take you. Let's call her Jin-Hee...

We are waiting for the subway and I asked her questions about her night and stuff. She was drinking coffee and spilled some on herself so I was joking with her about that. She was very keen so I started running my compliance tests. My compliance tests consist of giving them a twirl within 5 minutes of the sarge, high fives if they qualify themselves to me, putting my arms close to them, and holding their hand.

She passes all my compliance tests with colors and we are in the subway heading to my destination. We talked about our travels, which I asked her the question in Korean. My Korean is pretty sluggish but she was able to comprehend what I was saying and it built prizability. IT turns out that she traveled all over Asia. What does that tell me here? She's the adventurous type and she's outgoing.

I begin to force frame her within the sarge. "Jin-Hee your very outgoing and adventurous you like to travel." Turns out her favorite place was Hong Kong so we talk about it. I tell her about my travels to Asia...

After a long subway ride, it is our stop and she tells me she had to stay on. My wing and I get off the stop and she gets off with me... We walk to our stop and I hold her hand as we walk over to our stop. She takes me in the wrong direction and instead of complying here I told her were going the wrong way. I pull back and go to the right direction and we say our goodbyes.

Goodbyes no Bachelor!!! I made a huge mistake here fellas. I should have gone along with her and off to her place or wherever she wanted to pull me to. Instead, I was not able to see things. I'm asking myself right now why I was not able to see this?

I time bridged her and set her up for a coffee meet up next Saturday.
 
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She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

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The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I really don't have anything productive to add here, only to say that "solid subway sarge" sounds funny to me.

That and I think you should name her Jin-She instead of Jin-He.
 

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Jaxon said:
I really don't have anything productive to add here, only to say that "solid subway sarge" sounds funny to me.

That and I think you should name her Jin-She instead of Jin-He.
I spelled it wrong but Jin Hee is a common name for girls here. If you want, I can make an English name next time...
 

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bachelor said:
I spelled it wrong but Jin Hee is a common name for girls here. If you want, I can make an English name next time...
Heh I was just messin' around man. I read your post and thought you did great so didn't see a need for any additional input. You're meeting with her next Saturday, you're good to go!
 
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