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FR: SF Club 1015..Grandma and the Nursing home's night out!!

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Ok, so last night i went to this club in San Francisco called "1015", i did a few approaches but i couldn't think of any openers except for the usual "Hi.." or "I love your outfit! You got style!" Anyways it was one of my girl cousins birthdays so we had a private room...so im walking around the different rooms upstairs and downstairs and end up in the trance room...all i was thinking was "OMFG!! What are all these old people doing here!"

I swear there were like 40-60 year old people in there dancing around like they're cool or something! I mean, its not like i haven't seen any old people at the clubs...but this was like a room FULL of old people just getting down trying to re-live their youth or something...I was thinking "Man..i think these people are going through a mid-life crisis or something!"

So then i went upstairs to the techno room and saw a couple old people there and people like 28-30 somethings...i approached a 2 set of hb7 and hb6, i opened with a comment of...

Ken: "Is that your grandma over there? Why are there so many old people here tonight??"

HB7 (Looking offended): "I love this club! :box: i would still come here when im 50!"(then commenting to her friend about what i said about old people then turned her back away from me)

then i walked away..

then went to the main room where the hip hop music was and approached this 2 set of French chicks..thats where i opened, commenting on the trendy military hat and trendy clothes they were wearing with this...

Ken: "Whoa! I like your style! Im from LA...we don't dress like that (Lie)...you guys from around here? Is that how people dress here in SF?"

Hb7: "Actually were from France.." (laughs)

then we just shoot the sh!t a little more then i say i have to get back to my friends but ill hit her up later for a dance and she agrees...

Then i go downstairs to my girl cousins birthday again and at the entrance where the security lady is only letting people in who are with the party and has a wristband, i see these 2 girls HB7 and HB5 (fat chick) and they don't look too happy..i go..

Ken: "Why you ladies look so sad??"

HB7: "We wanna get into this room, but they wont let us in.."

Ken: "So you want me to be your savior or something??"

Then i turn to the security lady and say..

Ken: "They're with m....(then my birthday girl cousin stumbles down the stairs drunk)

Then i greet her and she goes

BDAY Cousin: "ohh..hes with me!" (smiling)

Then i ask her to get the 2 girls in and she ok's them too..

so i dance with for a little but them leave elsewhere to the other rooms roaming around...

Then later i see the French chicks again i tried dancing with them but they didn't seem so interested...i approached a few more chicks being **** blocked by their guy friends (probably orbiters) or they just weren't trying to dance with me (i hate that). Then i go back into the Trance room with the old people and approach this HB8.5 Go-Go dancer and asked..

Ken: "Hey do you work here?"

HB8.5: "Yeah.."(smiles)

Ken: "What are those tanks for?" (points to tanks)

HB8.5: "ohh..those are where the smoke effects come from.."

Ken: "So is that supposed to like hypnotize people or something?..." (lame i know)

HB8.5: (laughs) no...

Then she went back doing what she had to do and i walked around some more...


So then around 3am we leave the club...

We get outside the club and there is this Mexican dude with a hot dog stand selling hot dogs...my guy cousin says to buy some because they were "The best hot dogs ever.." so i agreed as we had to wait for my sister to get the car from parking anyway...

So were waiting to get hot dogs in the line when this 40ish blond HB7 was conversating with another dude and she was complaining about the guys here being so cheap and not buying her drinks! She said in Las Vegas guys would just ask if you want a drink like its nothing...and that she was married for 20 years and single now or whatever and blah blah...

and we were thinking like "WTF?? Your OLD lady...go home and take care of your kids, you shouldn't be here at the club anyways with your old as$...why would we want to buy an old as$ lady a drink??"

Ohh well...we just thought it was funny how people can be that age and still think they're in their 20s...

Even the guy she was talking to was laughing with me about the fact that she was really old and still clubbing and wanting guys to buy her drinks..


So we basically go home after we get our hot dogs and got home at around 4am.

No number closes tonight but at least i danced the night away and had fun...I find that im not that afraid to approach anymore with HB7 or 8s...HB9s are still a little intimidating but the whole night I just put myself in the mind state thinking i own the fvcking club...All these people come here to see me and hang out at my place...if they shot me down or ignored me thats cuz they're intimidated by me cuz im higher status then them...

All in all...about 8-10 approaches..fun night regardless of no number closes.

SARGE ON!! :box:
 

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Yeah, I used to frequent "1015 Folsom" when I lived in the SF bay area. The club scene up there rocks, still. After 2am is when all the tweakers and freaks come out of the woodwork, waiting to get inside. I did one "Spunday" dance party(until 8am). I had a blast!!!
 

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Ken785 said:
No number closes tonight but at least i danced the night away and had fun...
That's a pretty good mindset to have. Go out to HAVE FUN and pick up chicks. If you go out to have a good time with your friends you'll enjoy yourself more instead than going out just to pick chicks - especially when you fail at number closing. You're just gonna lose your confidence sooner or later.

I find that im not that afraid to approach anymore with HB7 or 8s...HB9s are still a little intimidating but the whole night I just put myself in the mind state thinking i own the fvcking club...All these people come here to see me and hang out at my place...if they shot me down or ignored me thats cuz they're intimidated by me cuz im higher status then them...
Bad mindset this is DJ Bible crap. What's the point of pretending to be higher status than someone when in fact you're not? Most of the girls just talked to you to be polite, and another set just turned their back on you. Did this mindset help you at all? It didn't, you have living proof for it.
You can be confident without this mindset by just having respect for yourself. If you're confident with your personality and you're just there to have a good time and maybe grab some ass that's all there is to it.

Kudos for the approaches! :)
 

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smooth guy said:
That's a pretty good mindset to have. Go out to HAVE FUN and pick up chicks. If you go out to have a good time with your friends you'll enjoy yourself more instead than going out just to pick chicks - especially when you fail at number closing. You're just gonna lose your confidence sooner or later.



Bad mindset this is DJ Bible crap. What's the point of pretending to be higher status than someone when in fact you're not? Most of the girls just talked to you to be polite, and another set just turned their back on you. Did this mindset help you at all? It didn't, you have living proof for it.
You can be confident without this mindset by just having respect for yourself. If you're confident with your personality and you're just there to have a good time and maybe grab some ass that's all there is to it.

Kudos for the approaches! :)
how am i not higher status then them? are you suggesting we should think were lower status and that we should worship these women?
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ken785 said:
how am i not higher status then them? are you suggesting we should think were lower status and that we should worship these women?
Are you? If you were they'd be trying to get your attention, not the other way round.

No Im not suggesting to think you're lower status, and I neither suggesting walking around thinking you're the **** when in fact you're not that either (*generally* speaking).

I suggested you go out to have a good time and not go with high hopes with a mindset that in the end is gonna get you disappointed.

You're neither lower status neither higher status. You're high status when you have respect for YOURSELF. When you have that of course you won't worship women, and neither men. People nowadays are so concerned with status and how they look when they're outside. Just relax have confidence and act like an actual human being.

That's what I'm suggesting.
 

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smooth guy said:
Are you? If you were they'd be trying to get your attention, not the other way round.

No Im not suggesting to think you're lower status, and I neither suggesting walking around thinking you're the **** when in fact you're not that either (*generally* speaking).

I suggested you go out to have a good time and not go with high hopes with a mindset that in the end is gonna get you disappointed.

You're neither lower status neither higher status. You're high status when you have respect for YOURSELF. When you have that of course you won't worship women, and neither men. People nowadays are so concerned with status and how they look when they're outside. Just relax have confidence and act like an actual human being.

That's what I'm suggesting.
i do respect myself...i guess that makes me high status then doesnt it? :cool:
 

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dude your a tool. People are concerned with their looks and how they are on the outside. THAT is the reason you have to have high sociol status to get chicks, because their all concerned with their looks and sociol status. so us fellow Don Juan's exploit this fact. except we dont play by the rules of society (you have to be good looking/rich/famous to get the most attractive women) we play by our own rules. even though we are not rich and famous (some not even attractive) we still manage to get the attractive girls. because we make women believe that WE have high sociol status in THIER society. by well placed DHVs, and other characteristics in our body language/tone etc that they associate with men of high sociol status(rich/famous men and also alpha males). so then they become attracted. so long story short, acting like the club is yours and walking around and looking like your hot **** WILL get you pvssy. girls that go to the club are just little girls that dress up and want attention, so just go in their like a macho horny gorrilla and give em all the attention they fvckin want.
and that's my ****ing point...people nowadays are too concerned how they look on the outside and bother with status too much. It's all a game about looks and status and people's insecurities are causing it.

Let's think about the guys who get laid (the naturals). i don't see them being concerned with status or thinking who is higher status and who is lower status than them. They're pretty confident with who they are and live for the moment.. they don't bother with that kind of crap when they approach a chick thinking 'oh ok how do I approach her without her thinking I'm lower status than her...and how do I make myself a higher status.' This is bull**** man. they're confident enough to respect themselves and talk to them just to have a good time and get some ass. Unless you go somewhere where mostly rich British people hang out then you need to worry about status... but not in a club where people are just having a good time!

That's the damn problem with the common AFC...they're not confident enough with who they are, and when they go out they TRY to prove something to everybody with this status bull****. Thinking you're the **** might get you in a good mindset to be more confident with yourself and talk to people, but on the long run what does it got to offer you if you AREN'T actually "the ****?" You might get a girl, but later one she'll just smell your bull**** if you don't have a social circle or any friends to hang out with. If you truly 'were the ****" you wouldn't walk around in the mall or a club thinking of lines to approach people in order to get them talk to you.

But like you said, as far as "*****" goes women just get into a club and put on a 2-hour make-up to look hot and get attention. It might get you laid. if the life someone wants to live is just analyzing every little detail before approaching someone then be my guest. But wouldn't it be better if you really were the guy that you're pretending to be?
 
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