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Master Don Juan
I thought I would post some thoughts on my weekend with my GF.
Background: We have been dating about 6mos, exclusive about 3mos. I like her a lot but she has young kids and mine are grown. She normally stays with me one night per weekend and I see her one or two other times during the week, like for a booty call and a run after work before she gets her kids from daycare. I only go to her house to pick her up. We don't do kid stuff together unless I have my grand daughter, who is the same age as her youngest.
Her kids were going with their father to visit grandparents, and when she told me I had been somewhat over-served and suggested that she stay with me for the weekend. She was very pleased with this, but honestly I was a little nervous about this once I sobered up.
It turned out to be a very good time. We rode my motorcycle, exercised, cooked, drank, fvcked every night and she blew me every morning. I have been reading Married Man Sex Life and was mindful of our interactions. Some things I observed:
1) She was very respectful of my house. I think this was because I have been consistent in setting expectations - for example, I have always said "c'mon, help me clean up the kitchen before we go to bed. I don't like to wake up to dirty dishes". She even did my laundry.
2) B!tches love to be physically dominated. On a MC ride we were sitting drinking a beer at a picnic table at a bar and she said something kind of smartass and I grabbed her and leaned her over backward and pretended to tickle her... like she was 5yo or something. Drove her crazy, she even told me so later on. And once when I was fvcking her I held her arms down above her head the entire time. She writhed and squirmed and juiced all over my bed.
3) If you are comfortable giving instructions, she will be comfortable following them. Athol Kay's "leadership moment quotient" is gold.
4) Sometimes it's best to ignore their little moodiness. Women's emotions change like the weather. Especially when they are drunk. You gotta just let some sh!t go and not take it too seriously. You need to be the rock and demonstrate to them that how YOU act is not dependent on how THEY feel. Now I am not saying to tolerate disrespect, I am saying that if they get pouty or quiet or whatever just let 'em be.
Anyway, it was nice having a chick around the house and we seemed to function pretty well together, but I still don't know where the future lies in this relationship due to the kid thing.
TLDR: Having a chick around is nice. Keep the frame, be in charge, be physically dominant, tease them and be playful, set expectations.
Background: We have been dating about 6mos, exclusive about 3mos. I like her a lot but she has young kids and mine are grown. She normally stays with me one night per weekend and I see her one or two other times during the week, like for a booty call and a run after work before she gets her kids from daycare. I only go to her house to pick her up. We don't do kid stuff together unless I have my grand daughter, who is the same age as her youngest.
Her kids were going with their father to visit grandparents, and when she told me I had been somewhat over-served and suggested that she stay with me for the weekend. She was very pleased with this, but honestly I was a little nervous about this once I sobered up.
It turned out to be a very good time. We rode my motorcycle, exercised, cooked, drank, fvcked every night and she blew me every morning. I have been reading Married Man Sex Life and was mindful of our interactions. Some things I observed:
1) She was very respectful of my house. I think this was because I have been consistent in setting expectations - for example, I have always said "c'mon, help me clean up the kitchen before we go to bed. I don't like to wake up to dirty dishes". She even did my laundry.
2) B!tches love to be physically dominated. On a MC ride we were sitting drinking a beer at a picnic table at a bar and she said something kind of smartass and I grabbed her and leaned her over backward and pretended to tickle her... like she was 5yo or something. Drove her crazy, she even told me so later on. And once when I was fvcking her I held her arms down above her head the entire time. She writhed and squirmed and juiced all over my bed.
3) If you are comfortable giving instructions, she will be comfortable following them. Athol Kay's "leadership moment quotient" is gold.
4) Sometimes it's best to ignore their little moodiness. Women's emotions change like the weather. Especially when they are drunk. You gotta just let some sh!t go and not take it too seriously. You need to be the rock and demonstrate to them that how YOU act is not dependent on how THEY feel. Now I am not saying to tolerate disrespect, I am saying that if they get pouty or quiet or whatever just let 'em be.
Anyway, it was nice having a chick around the house and we seemed to function pretty well together, but I still don't know where the future lies in this relationship due to the kid thing.
TLDR: Having a chick around is nice. Keep the frame, be in charge, be physically dominant, tease them and be playful, set expectations.
