"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FR: My first attempt in cold approaching...I think I cheated? Advice please.

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This is regarding Neil Strauss's "30 Day Challenge" book. If you guys own it are have read some of it, its pretty good. I actually had it for about a month just reading it and not actually trying the stuff out(waste right?), until about last week where I felt my old oneitis creeping into my head at such a high magnitude that I just had to do something about it quick.

So I decided to sarge for the first time and I skipped to Day 4 of the book. The mission for that day was to approach 3 women and ask them where I can get some good Men's Apperal. It didnt matter how they responded just as long as I get a response in general. No conversation necessary but if you do have one, even better. THATS IT. I personally thought that the question was kinda lame because I was planning to do this at the mall where I would be surrounded by clothing stores so I decided to change the routine a little. Instead of asking about men's apperal stores, I wrote on a piece of paper "Find a Rastafarian/Jamaican beenie for Keith's bday!" and decided to ask chicks where I can find one =P.

So I walked around the mall trying my best to look lost and scanned for target chicks at the same time. In total I made 4 approaches but I believe none were legitimate as far as the original instructions were concerned.... 3 out of my 4 approaches were toward chicks that WORKED at the mall and 1 smoker. As far as the chicks working, they were pretty cool I guess cuz they were kinda obligated to help you out at the same time. But one asian chick that worked at dip n dots was pretty fcukin snobby. Anyways, as for the smoker chick, this could have gone according to plan. In fact she was already friendly when I got to talking to her BUT, I changed the routine just for her:down:. I went up to her and asked her for a smoke and she kindly gave me one. As soon as I lit my cig, I was gonna bust the routine on her and then BAM! I blank...Next thing I know, Im saying thanks and walking away. FCUK.

But yea...thats my first attempts in cold approaching...Advice is more than welcome. Was it alright to change the routine? Was it legit to approach girls that are on the clock? Btw, I didnt attempt to apprach moving targets...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Rebound Material said:
But one asian chick that worked at dip n dots was pretty fcukin snobby.
Yeah, those Dip n Dots girls can be so high class ... :p

Seriously, could you go up and ask her something like:

"So, my name is R.B., pleased to meet you... (stick out your hand) Ms. Dip? Or is it Dot? And she's Dip? (point at other Dip n Dot chick) Or is it the other way around. Or what? Cuz I get so confused sometimes."

And then just stare at her and wait for an answer. It will be hilarious whatever happens.
 

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thedeparted said:
Yeah, those Dip n Dots girls can be so high class ... :p

Seriously, could you go up and ask her something like:

"So, my name is R.B., pleased to meet you... (stick out your hand) Ms. Dip? Or is it Dot? And she's Dip? (point at other Dip n Dot chick) Or is it the other way around. Or what? Cuz I get so confused sometimes."

And then just stare at her and wait for an answer. It will be hilarious whatever happens.
Yea, she had a nerve. BTW, she was the only one working cuz their dip n dots was just a stand in the middle of the mall. Anyways, anyone want to answer my questions?!
 

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dude, don't be so hard on yourself. you did fine.:up:

The whole purpose of exercises like these is to get you out of your comfort zone by doing things you don't normally do. Just keep doing things that are slightly uncomfortable, until they become comfortable, then push out of your NEW expanded comfort zone a little bit more.

The key is to keep at it, slowly, but steadily. If you try and do too much, you'll get discouraged and quit. Little bit each day.
 
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