"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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FR: How i got this HB at the club

Trance

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So here i go out, its my college parties week, tuesday, wednsday and thursday. Since its engineering party, like 80% of the students are guys, but i tought hmmm The girls that are going to this party KNOW that like 60 or 70% will be guys there, and many of them go there to meet guys and get some. That was my tought.

So i went out wednsday, i entered the club not so drunk as i usually like to (i had only drink like 4 beers and a vodka). I enter there with 2 friends of mine that are also into DJing. I am whearing my grade's t-shirt. Many times its great to use some article, usually a t-shirt that girls can coment about, like coming to you asking about your college, or other shirt i have "i think i'll have another beer" with all the lethers making it seem that you are drunk reading it make good aproach teasers for interested girls.

We greeted our friends who were already there and we found right at the 1st bar, and then went upstairs to get a drink, and check out what's up on the club. Saw a couple of groups of girls and we went down to the floor. One of my friends just said: "There!" and we mixed up between some nice groups. I saw a chick and wow, i got frozen on her, great 1st impact the did on me. And since she was smoking i went so ask her light, with a big, big smile. My friends asked me: "already working?" and i said "just wanted her to check me out for latter.."

We circle around in the club, greeting known ppl and checking out girls, i got hot and im going to take my leather jacket off. I put it away, and the minute im coming back with my friends, a girl jumps into me, reads my t-shirt and says: "Managing?? Do you know xptoyx?" And me: "Of course i do, he was from my class till last year!" and she was like bla bla bla hey girlllsss and starts calling a ton of girls and introducing them to me and my 2 friends right after me.
When i realized, i'm in the middle of a group of 10-15 finalist nurses. And guess what, one of them was the girl i asked light off...

So back to my HB, for me the most sexy of all there (that's why i asked her the light), i was talking with her, then i make a small break, get away for a bit, go for a drink, go wc, go talk to some friends, etc..
When i back to the group, i go talk to my HB, but dunno why i felt i wasnt getting it anywhere, so i went for a round.

I keep on meeting girls, and others asking to be introduced to me, there i go talk to more girls i hadn't talked yet. And one of them was really cool, so i said to her: "Come get a drink with me", and so she came. I held her hand while taking her and my HB SAW this lol But this girl had to leave soon, we were making good chemistry, i felt she was falling for me, so i # closed.

Its like 5 am and i go to my HB, i honestly dont remember what i told her, but the next thing i know (cause i was a kinda drunk by then), i was with her next to the bar. The place was a bit more empty now so we had more room to dance. I grabbed her hand, and we started dancing, really close, i put her hands on my back while holding hers, and started to touch all her back, her long hair, while dancing with my eyes to her lips, and her's to mine. Each time closer, we were getting so hot, and then i just kissed her. She responded back, but then turned her face a bit away. Sometimes she would take her hands off and i would just put them back on, while touching all her body, stroking her hair and kissing her back. The initial 5-10m that she offered some resistance, made me COMPLETLY crazy, that was really turning me on, and making her even more of a prize and desirable. Finally she "surrendered" and there we were in the middle of the floor, by now not much ppl right in the middle, and everyone looking at us, all my friends and the other nurses, while we were dancing in a sexy sexy way, and kissing and more kissing in the middle of the dance floor.

At 6 am she had to go, so i got her # (i tought so lol)

Then i go some friend's place to sleep with my other friend who spent all night with a girl too, but didnt went for a kiss cause a lot of friends of girls he doesnt want to screw chances with there. Now this was funny. I hadn't the girl's number in my phone. In fact, i remember i even forgot the girl's name LOL But even when im drunk i am smart, so at 6 am i sent a msg to myself with the girl's name! lolll And then i confirmed the number i had was her's cause i sent a msg and her too.
This wednsday im gona meet her there again, we already switched some sms's and she is really into me.


Hmm about this night, i think i had success with this chick cause i showed her social proof like she probably never seen (imagine it was my college party, and beside that i was always being introduced to more and more girls).
I didnt insist on her, i was just enjoying my time there, having a lot of fun, not trying to please anyone, just myself.
And the most important, whenever i talked to her, i never talked about something banal like school, or other regular convo stuff, absoluctly none of it. The only things i got to know about her was her grade, year and where she lived. All the rest we just flirted with one another, and it was just our body language talking to each other.
And when i went to dance with her and kiss her, dunno why but i was 100% sure she would like, i didnt even think of what could happen if she didnt want, it just felt so natural that she felt my confidence and was seduced by it (so she told me latter).

Anyway, it was a great night, and i just wanted to share a Field Report with u guys since i dont do it for a couple of weeks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Full version: (not much more in this one, just a couple of details of how i circled around in the club and about my friends, but since its large i cut some pieces so that my initial post isnt too long to be worth reading)


So here i go out, its my college parties week, tuesday, wednsday and thursday. Since its engineering party, like 80% of the students are guys, but i tought hmmm The girls that are going to this party KNOW that like 60 or 70% will be guys there, and many of them go there to meet guys and get some. That was my tought.

So i went out wednsday, i entered the club not so drunk as i usually like to (i had only drink like 4 beers and a vodka). I enter there with 2 friends of mine that are also into DJing. I am whearing my grade's t-shirt. Many times its great to use some article, usually a t-shirt that girls can coment about, like coming to you asking about your college, or other shirt i have "i think i'll have another beer" with all the lethers making it seem that you are drunk reading it make good aproach teasers for interested girls. So since it was my party i took that t-shirt. On top of it a leather jacket, kinda hot in the club but it made quite a good impact for first apearences.

We greeted our friends who were already there and we found right at the 1st bar, and then went upstairs to get a drink, and check out what's up on the club.
I saw a girl that i had make out once in a club, gorgeous but was with a guy.
Saw a couple of groups of girls and we went down to the floor. One of my friends just said: "There!" and we mixed up between some nice groups. I saw a chick and wow, i got frozen on her, great 1st impact the did on me. And since she was smoking i went so ask her light, with a big, big smile. My friends asked me: "already working?" and i said "just wanted her to check me out for latter.."

We circle around in the club, greeting known ppl and checking out girls, i got hot and im going to take my leather jacket off. I put it away, and the minute im coming back with my friends, a girl jumps into me, reads my t-shirt and says: "Managing?? Do you know xptoyx?" And me: "Of course i do, he was from my class till last year!" and she was like bla bla bla hey girlllsss and starts calling a ton of girls and introducing them to me and my 2 friends right after me.
When i realized, i'm in the middle of a group of 10-15 finalist nurses. And guess what, one of them was the girl i asked light off...

So i start chatting to them all, and of course that once i got introduced to my favorite, i talked to her and another girl who was closer to her, small talk, but always with a big smile. I look around and my friends are also chatting with some of the girls, one got fixated with a HB8.5, and the other with a HB7, with who he spend the whole evening chatting and dancing a bit. The HB8.5 friend of mine didn't get lucky, and after he told me the story i think i know why he failed with her. He's like always trying to get the # fast, and setup other meetings instead of insisting all he can on the 1st day. Also he tries too hard to "nice talk" the girl instead of having fun with what he's doing.

So back to my HB, for me the most sexy of all there (that's why i asked her the light), i was talking with her, then i make a small break, get away for a bit, go for a drink, go wc, go talk to some friends, etc..
When i back to the group, i go talk to my HB, but dunno why i felt i wasnt getting it anywhere, so i went for a drink. I am at the bar and a girl friend of mine came to me, hugged me, talked a bit with me while i was asking other drink. After a bit i was talking to another nurse, and she comes back saying a friend of her's wants to meet me. I greet the girl, but then one of my best friends comes to me, i start talking to him and kinda ignored the girl! lol Anyway, all the girls were checking out who was this guy with so many girls around, and so many friends, this was really cool for social proof.

Next thing i notice a black girl joined the group, and asked to be introduced to me, there i go talk to her and 2 other girls i hadn't talked yet. And one of them was really cool, so i said to her: "Come get a drink with me", and so she came. I held her hand while taking her and my HB SAW this lol But this girl had to leave soon, we were making good chemistry, i felt she was falling for me, so i # closed.

Another round around the club, couple more beers, talking to more girls in the group, having the time of my life talking to so many girls and dancing with them, friends, drinking..

Its like 5 am and i go to my HB, i honestly dont remember what i told her, but the next thing i know (cause i was a kinda drunk by then), i was with her next to the bar. The place was a bit more empty now so we had more room to dance. I grabbed her hand, and we started dancing, really close, i put her hands on my back while holding hers, and started to touch all her back, her long hair, while dancing with my eyes to her lips, and her's to mine. Each time closer, we were getting so hot, and then i just kissed her. She responded back, but then turned her face a bit away. Sometimes she would take her hands off and i would just put them back on, while touching all her body, stroking her hair and kissing her back. The initial 5-10m that she offered some resistance, made me COMPLETLY crazy, that was really turning me on, and making her even more of a prize and desirable. Finally she "surrendered" and there we were in the middle of the floor, by now not much ppl right in the middle, and everyone looking at us, all my friends and the other nurses, while we were dancing in a sexy sexy way, and kissing and more kissing in the middle of the dance floor.

At 6 am she had to go, so i got her # (i tought so lol)

Then i go some friend's place to sleep with my other friend who spent all night with a girl too, but didnt went for a kiss cause a lot of friends of girls he doesnt want to screw chances with there. Now this was funny. I hadn't the girl's number in my phone. In fact, i remember i even forgot the girl's name LOL But even when im drunk i am smart, so at 6 am i sent a msg to myself with the girl's name! lolll And then i confirmed the number i had was her's cause i sent a msg and her too.
This wednsday im gona meet her there again, we already switched some sms's and she is really into me.


Hmm about this night, i think i had success with this chick cause i showed her social proof like she probably never seen (imagine it was my college party, and beside that i was always being introduced to more and more girls).
I didnt insist on her, i was just enjoying my time there, having a lot of fun, not trying to please anyone, just myself.
And the most important, whenever i talked to her, i never talked about something banal like school, or other regular convo stuff, absoluctly none of it. The only things i got to know about her was her grade, year and where she lived. All the rest we just flirted with one another, and it was just our body language talking to each other.
And when i went to dance with her and kiss her, dunno why but i was 100% sure she would like, i didnt even think of what could happen if she didnt want, it just felt so natural that she felt my confidence and was seduced by it (so she told me latter).

Anyway, it was a great night, and i just wanted to share a Field Report with u guys since i dont do it for a couple of weeks.
 

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What? i have no idea what i just tried to read.
 

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Yesterday night i went to the club again. She was there too, i was talking to her and her friends, then took her to dance, but a girl friend of hers went along too, so i couldnt make a move again. Then all of a sudden, the friend said "lets go get your mobile phone", and so they went. Next time i see her she's with a guy.

Latter on when we left the club, and we got to the girls car (we went along with them cause my friend was with one of the girls), the windows of the car were all sweated. The girl was in the trunk with the guy LOL

In the morning she sent 2 sms's saying something like: " i dont need to give explanations, but i dont want you to missinterpret me. He's not my boyfriend but we have a very special relation, that's why i didnt want nothing to happen last week (but it did happen), and tonight. But he has a girlfriend. Im sorry for something, kiss"


LOL well, since i dont care about her, just wanted to bang her, i had a good laugh about all this, and so did my friends.
 
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