"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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FR: Gaming A Dame, and Putting AFC's to Shame

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I was in a really good mood yesterday, despite the dreary Minnesota day. A pack of us headed out to the Library in Dinkytown, MPLS. This place is a breeding ground for pop-collard douchebags, but it's also a mecca of smokin' teenyboppers. We rarely drink here, but tonight felt right...

A buddy of mine, and myself are shootin some doubles pool when I spot a cute little blond with a goofy cap on. Well, in order for me to sink the 8 ball, I had to have that hat on my head. It's a good luck thing or something...or just a decent in...

I took my time in between shots trying to initiate some eye contact, and I finally caught her. I gave her the "come here" motion (like I do when I'm working the G-spot on your Mom, but that's a whole nother FR.) :eek: And mouth the words "Come Hither". She proceeds to break away from her conversation with the dude and gal, and comes over to see what I'm all about.

For the record, she's only a 6, but came off as really cool, and quirky, probably worth of my time...not to mention, I'm really ugly and couldn't get anything better, and also love meeting new girls. :up:

I grab the brim of her cap and this dialogue follows:

(PUA=Me, HB6=Her)

PUA- "Hey! I really need this hat, it's going to help me sink the 8 ball..."
HB6- "No way! Have you seen my hair!?, I didn't even do it tonight, kinda lazy..."
PUA- "Yeah, you'd better keep that thing on (with a big grin, and a little tug of the brim.)
HB6- "Laughing" and given me a punch on the arm.
PUA- "Hey, hold on a sec..." - as I walk a few steps away and hit my shot.

I came back after hitting my shot and small talked her up for a few minutes (don't really remember about what, probably about how ****ty of a venue this is because of the jock/frat boy d-bags). I took off to the bathroom and rubbed one out because I knew I wouldn't last more than a minute if we were to have sex.

I came back to my buddies and in passing she gave me a double nipple pinch. After she came back from the sh!tter she went over to her group (within earshot away) and I walked up to her and her friends and gave her a little rub on the head, then stole her hat. I took off and she gave chace, we were running circles around the pool table...it was quite entertaining. I put the hat on, mocked her, and then gave it back.

Went to check on a buddy macking some 1's and deuces, and before I knew it , Neil Diamond's "Sweet Caroline" was playing and it was time to go. But wait, for I've forgotten something, yes, that's right, HER NUMBER!

Walked up to her and her friend, said a few magical and simple words (yes, even you can do it!) "Hey, I'm getting outta here, let me get your number and I'll see you soon." She obliged, and before I got her number, she made sure she had mine.

I left, and nearly got into a fight with a few AFC's who were hounding a 10, and failed. (My buddy opened her in front of 5 drooling douchebags, and was told he should "probably leave, because these dudes don't like you here" by the enforcer of the group...whole different story in itself.

Anyway, very good night. I'll be calling her up soon...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Amante Silvestre said:
You know, as much as you pissed me off giving me sh-t in the barman thread, I've got to say it: the "lucky hat" move was pretty smooth. Nice spot work. But I think you f-cked it up by being too juvenile. You went from C+F, DJ to being afraid to make a significant move. Excessive flirting is a sign of weakness. Call your shots earlier.
LOL Amante, appreciate everything you said, but, where's this "afraid" thing come in? Hope I didn't piss you off too badly... :)

Meh, I was having too good of a time with my buddies to make a physical move on her...wasn't interested in kissing her either.

As far as juvenile, what do you mean by that? The point when I stole her hat, started walking away from her, and when she gave chase I kinda of picked up the pace?
 

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Amante -

I feel ya. I guess kissing in bars in front of 500 people isn't my thing. Maybe it is, and I'm just not comfortable doing it yet. I've never been much of a PDA guy...

Without tooting my horn, I'm definitely confident enough in my game and abilities to kiss a girl within the first X amount of minutes, be it 5, 10, 15, etc. Just not in that scenario.

I'll work on it...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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