FR: First Night Clubbing/Day after

[Superman X]

I just moved in to Boston University yesterday, and I already know college is going to be awesome. Yesterday, I couldn't find my roomate and my friends in this huge ass cafeteria, so I go and find a table of three girls (7,6,4).

Dan: Hey I lost my friends, you guys mind if I sit here?
Girls: No, no go ahead
Dan: Nice! You guys can be my new best friends!
Girls: Hahahaha

And we started talking from there. I asked what people were doing that night, and they said that they were going out to a club, and I should come with them. I told them it would be my first time clubbing, and they said that it'd be their first time too, so it'd be like we were all losing our clubbing virginity together. Another guy came over, who actually knew where the club was, and we talked for a little while. After we get done eating, I get their numbers and they say they'll call me around nine.

Later that night I just called back to see when we were meeting up, and they said in front of their dorm at 930. So in the meantime, I'm chatting with a few people, and I end up inviting someone from the room next to mine, and this other girl from downt the hall.

So we meet up, and it turns out three of the people aren't 18 to get into the 18+ club. One has a fake ID, but the others are just hoping to get in with their student IDs. We take the T down the the Warren Towers, two other huge BU dorms, where a bunch of other people they knew joined our group. By this time, it'd snowballed to about 15 people.

So we walk down to the club. The under 18 people who we went with got in, surprisingly, and we head down to the dance floor. The club was smaller than I thought, but with the eardrum-popping bass and flashing lights I expected. Me and this other kid were just standing around at first, looking at people dancing, but then the 4 dragged us down into the middle of the dance floor with the rest of our group.

I started dancing w/ the 4, then moved to the 6. They were both alright, and I was starting to get some confidence in my dance skills. I moved on to another nearby girl who I didn't know, put my hand on her back then started dancing behind her. We danced for a little while before she got dragged by friends.

I got rejected a few times by other girls, then wound up dancing with this girl who started grinding her ass into me hard right away. She was about a 6, not an eyesore, but nothing special either. We dance for a while, then I start running my hands over her body. She doesn't stop me, so I go for a kiss, and bam, we're making out on the dancefloor.

This only lasts a few minutes before she gets dragged by friends. Honestly I could care less, because my confidence is through the roof now. I move on, and renew the process of getting rejections, dancing with girls, trying to go as far as I can with them before they stop me.

There were a couple girls who let me do my thing with the hands, but pulled away when I went for the kiss. The only other notable girl of the night was a black girl, who I saw dancing by herself. She was pretty good looking, about a 7, not the typical "ghetto booty" with all the crazy dance moves, but she looked like she really didn't really know what she was doing there. I come up behind her and start dancing, shes shy at first, but eventually we're grinding hard and I've got my hands everywhere. I go for the kiss, she turns her head away, but keeps dancing. I back off for a few minutes, go for the kiss again, and she turns away again. I go for it again in a few minutes, and she starts kissing me lightly, then pulls away. In another couple minutes, she gets dragged by friends. I'm beginnning to see a pattern now, haha.

We leave soon afterwards. All in all, it was a pretty fun night. Cover charge was expensive ($15.00), and I didn't get any contact closes (I barely said anything to any of the girls). But at the same time, it was great for my confidence to be out there getting rejected over and over again, then getting rewarded for my persistance later.

Any experienced clubbers, I'd love to have your thoughts on this. But on to the next part of the FR...

 

[Superman X]

The Day After

After our matriculation ceremony the next morning, which was possibly the most fvckin boring thing I've ever attended, we had something called SPLASH where all the clubs and student organizations at BU have booths and try to get people to join. I split up with my roommate, and met a few new people at the matriculation, the guy and girl sitting on either side of me. But I split up from them, and went down to SPLASH to go find some cool clubs and meet some new people.

I go to a million booths and give my email out to two karate clubs, two dance clubs, the radio station, a frisbee club and a whole crapload more. Obviously I can't join them all, but there's so many things there that sound interesting. All the time I'd talk to random people, just saying stuff like "You know what this booth is?", and "Are they giving out free stuff here?" to open. Every single person at least answered me, some introduced themselves then moved on, some I had conversations with. There were literally thousands of people there. I would say that college events like these are literally the best place ever to meet new girls. They're all freshman, so they're looking for someone to talk to, mostly at least. One noteworthy conversation:

I go up to this Asian girl, about a 7
Dan: Hey, do you know what this booth is?
HB7: Yeah, it's blah blah blah (immediately turning towards me)
Dan: That's awesome, I think I'll sign up
HB7: Hey do you know if that stuff there is free? Because I feel guilty taking one without signing up.
Dan: [goes up to where the stuff is...slyly glances around, and slowly slides it off the table, then bolts away like a smooth criminal] (the stuff was obviously free, btw, and I gave half of it to her)
HB7: Laughs, asks what my name is

It turns out she was actually a sophomore, just there to get free stuff. Cool, I like older girls . We end up walking around together for about ten minutes looking at booths, having a cool conversation. I was thinking about taking her to coffee or something, but I don't actually know where I'd get coffee there and I wanted to look at booths. I asked for her number when she said she had to go, and I didn't have my cell phone or a pen, but she had one and she wrote it down.

I met up with some friends after, and we left to go somewhere else. Some things I noticed about the club and the day after though:

For the club, it was pretty much a solo thing for me, I was only with my group and the very beginning and very end of the night. They were all just pretty much dancing in the same circle the entire night. I really don't see why people don't like to go clubbing alone, are there some kind of wingman dance floor techniques which I don't know about or something?

Also, my dorms about a mile and a half away from the nearest club, and the T stops going at midnight. Do you think it'd be possible to get a girl back to my room when she has about 30 minutes of walking to get second thoughts?

And for the day after, it was a great feeling just to be on my own meeting new people. Actually I kind of wish I did have a wingman, but it was still good by myself. One huge mistake I found myself making though, was making little logistical obstacles into big imaginary obstacles. Like: I didn't have my cell phone or a pen, but I didn't go for any other numbers other than that one girl. But sitting here at my keyboard, I realize that there were pens all around at the booths, and girls always have pens anyways. And I should have asked that girl to coffee despite the logisical difficulties, she could have shown me where to get it, I could have looked at booths later, etc. Oh well, now I know not to be held back by that insignificant sh!t.

I think I'm off to a good start. Tell me what you think.

-Dan

 

[Krassus]

Wingmen can help with those pesky friends that tend to drag the girls away. But that's not something that people haven't succeeded at doing solo.

 

[PeeGee]

Do a search for clubbing guides, they are more informative than what I can tell you. As for clubs, you have to watch out for couples and/or groups of girls -- they get protective/jealous of their friends having attention, so they will drag their friends away. I've seen it all too often. What has worked for me is to watch out for that to happen, then approach the singled out girl. That way nobody feels left out blah-blah.

To get the contact info just do a 'the music is too loud wanna go to a quiet corner' type of exit, then chat/get contact/rinse-repeat. Good luck!

 

[xblitz44x]

Everything sounds awesome. It sounds like you're having a great time. College, especially the first few months, is THE easiest place to meet new people. Because everybody is there to meet new people so you don't have to worry about simply introducing yourself.

The biggest tip I can give to you is: meet as many people as you can NOW. Right now. The longer you wait, the more cliques are going to be established, and the harder it's going to be to break into a social circle. Even if you just introduce yourself and nothing else, you'll at least have broken the ice for later. Hang out with everybody, guys, pretty girls, not-so-pretty girls. Do it now while it's still the thing to do and before people get caught up with classes and shyt. Do the cafateria thing again, that was money. Do it to a different group every single day for the next couple weeks.

As far as the club game goes, your game seems as tight as any ASFer I've seen. You're going through the numbers unti you've found one that is on the same page as you. That's really ALL it takes. I have a friend who used to post to this board (david_med@hotmail.com) was his username. His game consists of walking through the dance floor, finding a girl he likes, grabbing her arm and dancing with her. He gets rejected about 75% of the time. But he doesn't care. The other 25% dance with him. From there, maybe 10% will kiss him. And maybe 5% will go home with him. That's what it's all about. Rather than sitting there running through all types of scripted bullshyt, and 'qualifying, and ****y/funny' crap...just go in there and get what you want.

For your first clubbing experience, I give you a solid B+. As far as girls being willing to walk 30 minutes home with you, you'll see. Some will, some won't. I think your best bet is to go with a wing, and get TWO girls to come home with you guys. Most likely you'll do the club thing, then go out to eat afterward, THEN you can work on getting them back to your place.

However I am almost positive that most if not all of your success is going to come from the college game. College parties are THE way to go. Hit them all. Go in there and be social with everybody. Get a little drunik and have a lot of fun.

-Blitz

PS: Oh yeah, and make sure you keep writing FRs so that I can like vicariously through you. Haha.

 

[Superman X]

Thanks for the replys everyone especially Blitz when you told me to go out and meet people now, RIGHT NOW. Because I did, I grabbed this kid and we went down to another floor and walked around to rooms with open doors meeting new people. We ended up in these girls rooms who with a bunch of other people, having an awesome time. After they kicked everyone out so we could go to sleep, me and this kid who I'd recruited as my wing went to this other girls room, and they're all over us. We're all going out tonight, actually. I like this whole idea of dorm sarging, I've had some really good times doing it. Too bad I have to do homework now though, college would be so much better without classes.

-Dan

 

[gav]

damn, wish i was there. sounds like you're having a great time.

your club technique is good. i usually meet people through other people these days and take it from there.

was that your first time dancing to club music? it took me a while to get my moves. if you haven't already done this, read finger's guide to "hitting the clubs".

don't want to spend 30 minutes walking home? run instead. ha, no, find a taxi.

$15 dollars was expensive? i spend at least 20pounds every time i'm out (i think that's $30), and that's making an effort to cut down on the beer.