DonJefe19
Don Juan
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Disclaimer: Claude was my editor - so if my tone sounds corny it wasn't me who re-written it
Don't usually write these but need to document this **** to keep my head straight.
Short version: Went out, made myself uncomfortable, got a number.
So Friday night I said **** it and tried a different venue instead of my usual ballroom studio. Love dancing there but needed to be around women who aren't married or old as dirt. This Latin club across town draws bigger crowds and has more available chicks. Plus it's got that nightclub vibe.
Dance clubs have way more bitchy women than ballroom studios. Walked in, saw two chicks through the glass wall, waved to be friendly. They didn't wave back.
Told the guy showing me around "This one doesn't like me..." He was confused but whatever.
Talked to the bartender while waiting for class. Cool dude, turns out he's competing in televised state competitions. Makes sense - independent studios hate franchise places like Fred Astaire.
First chick I talked to was this Slovenian dancer. Academic type, asked tons of questions about my training. I was brutally honest - told her I'm no professional. I'm not doing this for the art, just want to be two steps ahead of the next guy on the dance floor.
Class was basic as hell but good for dancing with strangers. There's three types of chicks at these places:
1.) Nervous bambis - Don't know how to dance, too busy staring at their feet. You get false negatives because they're focused on not ****ing up.
2.) Bonafide Latinas - Love them but they want nothing to do with me. Been dancing since they were kids so it's in their blood. Don't like white guys no matter how good they are. They back-lead and mistake communication problems for ****ty dancing.
3.) Nightclub divas - Hot and can dance but give you blank stares no matter what. Bored with every new guy that walks in. Piss me off.
At the rotation, danced with most of the women there. I always feel like the creepy guy - most of the time I'm reading negative reactions. The attractive ones especially gave me "you ain't good enough" looks.
Once the party started, most partners were older chicks I wouldn't date. But later got to dance with the ones I actually wanted.
This tall redhead had every dude asking her to dance after every song. Finally got my shot. She wasn't that great but that's no excuse - it's our job to lead well.
She gave me the bored look, making me nervous. Started being more active and she came around, looked like she was having fun. Song ended, felt like I could've done better.
Then the Slovenian came back. She had real training so we went hard. Never felt so alive! Found out she had a hot figure too. I was proud I could keep up.
Bought us drinks after. We talked but I didn't close since she's a regular and I'll see her again.
My proudest moment was leaving the dance floor to hit the bathroom. Saw the redhead with her friend and two guys. Approached because I needed to get over my fear of rejection.
"So I see you found my ginger sister from another mother" "Oh you two are related? I figured!"
Hit it off with the guys immediately. They noticed I danced well, asked if I was professional. Stayed humble, said I was just a student. They asked for pointers.
Great opportunity to win over the redhead and her friend. I suck at explaining dance but figured the guys would forget anyway and I'd get brownie points with the girls.
Some orbiter interrupted our mini lesson and the girls got spooked (or used it to escape).
Talked to the poor orbiter for a while since he wasn't getting any dances. But it was time to bounce - venue was an hour from my house.
Wasn't leaving without closing on the redhead though. She was still at the bar so I approached:
"Hey! It was really great meeting you and I was wondering if you ever wanted to get a drink or dinner sometime."
"Well we'll see each other every Friday here"
F*ck.
"—But I'd love to have your number!"
F*ck yes.
Gave her my phone, she put her number in. Haven't asked a chick I was super attracted to for her number in years. Felt amazing leaving that place.
This FR might not seem noteworthy and has holes but documenting progress is valuable for guys going through the same ****.
Thanks for reading.
Don't usually write these but need to document this **** to keep my head straight.
Short version: Went out, made myself uncomfortable, got a number.
So Friday night I said **** it and tried a different venue instead of my usual ballroom studio. Love dancing there but needed to be around women who aren't married or old as dirt. This Latin club across town draws bigger crowds and has more available chicks. Plus it's got that nightclub vibe.
Dance clubs have way more bitchy women than ballroom studios. Walked in, saw two chicks through the glass wall, waved to be friendly. They didn't wave back.
Told the guy showing me around "This one doesn't like me..." He was confused but whatever.Talked to the bartender while waiting for class. Cool dude, turns out he's competing in televised state competitions. Makes sense - independent studios hate franchise places like Fred Astaire.
First chick I talked to was this Slovenian dancer. Academic type, asked tons of questions about my training. I was brutally honest - told her I'm no professional. I'm not doing this for the art, just want to be two steps ahead of the next guy on the dance floor.
Class was basic as hell but good for dancing with strangers. There's three types of chicks at these places:
1.) Nervous bambis - Don't know how to dance, too busy staring at their feet. You get false negatives because they're focused on not ****ing up.
2.) Bonafide Latinas - Love them but they want nothing to do with me. Been dancing since they were kids so it's in their blood. Don't like white guys no matter how good they are. They back-lead and mistake communication problems for ****ty dancing.
3.) Nightclub divas - Hot and can dance but give you blank stares no matter what. Bored with every new guy that walks in. Piss me off.
At the rotation, danced with most of the women there. I always feel like the creepy guy - most of the time I'm reading negative reactions. The attractive ones especially gave me "you ain't good enough" looks.
Once the party started, most partners were older chicks I wouldn't date. But later got to dance with the ones I actually wanted.
This tall redhead had every dude asking her to dance after every song. Finally got my shot. She wasn't that great but that's no excuse - it's our job to lead well.
She gave me the bored look, making me nervous. Started being more active and she came around, looked like she was having fun. Song ended, felt like I could've done better.
Then the Slovenian came back. She had real training so we went hard. Never felt so alive! Found out she had a hot figure too. I was proud I could keep up.
Bought us drinks after. We talked but I didn't close since she's a regular and I'll see her again.
My proudest moment was leaving the dance floor to hit the bathroom. Saw the redhead with her friend and two guys. Approached because I needed to get over my fear of rejection.
"So I see you found my ginger sister from another mother" "Oh you two are related? I figured!"
Hit it off with the guys immediately. They noticed I danced well, asked if I was professional. Stayed humble, said I was just a student. They asked for pointers.
Great opportunity to win over the redhead and her friend. I suck at explaining dance but figured the guys would forget anyway and I'd get brownie points with the girls.
Some orbiter interrupted our mini lesson and the girls got spooked (or used it to escape).
Talked to the poor orbiter for a while since he wasn't getting any dances. But it was time to bounce - venue was an hour from my house.
Wasn't leaving without closing on the redhead though. She was still at the bar so I approached:
"Hey! It was really great meeting you and I was wondering if you ever wanted to get a drink or dinner sometime."
"Well we'll see each other every Friday here"
F*ck.
"—But I'd love to have your number!"
F*ck yes.
Gave her my phone, she put her number in. Haven't asked a chick I was super attracted to for her number in years. Felt amazing leaving that place.
This FR might not seem noteworthy and has holes but documenting progress is valuable for guys going through the same ****.
Thanks for reading.
