"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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FR: Cold Approached HB8 London

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Alright so you UK guys say you can't cold approach UK girls I think you're full of it! I was at the beach just a minute ago and I see this HB8 come and of course I'm hoping she sits in my vantage point....well, she does, time for action :woo:

So as I'm getting up to leave I go up and cold approach her, went something like this:

Me: Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you , but are you from Virginia? (been meaning to try this line)

Her: No, I'm from London. I'm visiting family on holiday.

Me: Oh, do they live here?

Her: No, my parents are from South Africa actually. My brother lives here though. I'm just relaxing now.

Me: Well this is the place to be. Have fun.

Her: Ok, I'll have to visit Virginia sometime!

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That's not exactly how it went, something like that, though. Very friendly London chick so I don't buy the UK girls are hard to approach argument. I have a couple questions though:

- How do you close a vacationer? She seemed interested, but I didn't really know where to go with the convo to close her.

Also give me feedback on my opener....just say "are you from ____"...think I found a good one :D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Inc. ©


Me: Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you , but are you from Virginia? (been meaning to try this line)

Her: No, I'm from London. I'm visiting family on holiday.

Me: Oh, do they live here?

Her: No, my parents are from South Africa actually. My brother lives here though. I'm just relaxing now.

Me: Well this is the place to be. Have fun.

Her: Ok, I'll have to visit Virginia sometime!

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nothing wrong with that, you opened and she responded nicely.

I think you cut the convo short and didnt LISTEN to her properly, check it:




Her: No, my parents are from South Africa actually. My brother lives here though. I'm just relaxing now.

Me: Well this is the place to be. Have fun.


right there you cut the convo short. You could stretched the convo even further there by talking about what she told u, for example:


Brother, parents, south africa, relaxing,

"is your brother on vaction too, or does he work here or something"

"have you been to south africa too, how does it compare to here?

"so is it you and your parents on holiday together, is it fun hanging out with your parents :D"

etc etc, continue from her answers she give u.

just ask her how shes finding it over here, what she does blah blah, build general rapport.


That's not exactly how it went, something like that, though. Very friendly London chick so I don't buy the UK girls are hard to approach argument.
LOL, some UK chicks are nasty experiences especially when they are drunk. Some arent.


How do you close a vacationer? She seemed interested, but I didn't really know where to go with the convo to close her.

erm im not so sure, you cud have got a hotel room number or find out wheres she staying and hooked something up.

by theway, ill test out your opener :D seems pretty good


peace

Muttley
 

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Hey muttley...I talked a little more than that, I just can't remember what we said...I posted most of the info I got but it was from a few questions and chit chat. I hear ya though...I could have said more, but I didn't know where to go with it. I probably could have got her contact info, but it didn't feel like I had enough rapport so it would have been awkward.
 
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