The more times I spend on here , the more prevalent the beta/Alpha war gets. Personally I choose to not abide by these labels and just focus on shaping the life I want.
A little bit of background :
Came off a crazy 4 year relationship that just drained my self confidence.
Many posters here will label the girl as BPD , but to me I choose to collect my side of the fault rather than pit my downfalls on another person.
I have taken a number of times reading threads and sometimes responding from my healing stage. I came to a conclusion that 95% of the people asking for advice and help on this forum are not alphas or betas ...they are simply "NICE GUYS". I know the difference because I enjoyed a ton of action in highschool and early stages of university until I got into my relationship and lost my frame and dignity as a man.
If many of you posters are willing to be truthful and give an accurate summary of yourself as a person ( you don't have to post it ) BUT your struggles go beyond getting women. You are passive , you are too nice to your family , boss , friends simply because you fear TENSION. You don't want to disappoint anyone not even yourself , so you continue being nice hoping somebody will notice and give you love and attention. Well that's not a road you want to travel because you WILL end up with a bpd woman because no SANE woman will choose a NICE GUY.
Growing up black , mainly in highschool I was in crews that most people will label as gangs and to be honest , I got most of my action from there.
One woman was not a priority because I knew there are other women , I said no when I disagree with something and said what was on my mind because I simply didn't care.
That my friends is looking out for YOU and your YOUR needs. Women feed of this and they can sense it even before you open your mouth. If you are smart and have the posture and body language game doen , they can sense it from your first sentence. Hench , " OMG he was so cute until he opened his mouth ".
Best advise I can give you is to stop being overly nice. Read " No more Mr. Nice Guy , read self growth books and everything you do from now on should be about YOU.
Stop pleasing your mom , dad , friends and the old you because subconsciously you are part of the problem.
Wake up tomorrow and feel a new you , say no to things you disagree with and speak for your self.
Blessing be upon you all and keep growing brothers.
*** I know many of you hold down jobs and are scared to speak up due to losing your job position***
What I have been doing for the last 4 months at work has been the counter idea.
1) Say no in a polite manner
2) Offer a way you think will get the job down better/ Reasonable explanation.
Many of you work but have no clue of your rights , there are things you can dispute and if your boss fires you ...you can take legal action. Make sure he knows you KNOW your rights.
A little bit of background :
Came off a crazy 4 year relationship that just drained my self confidence.
Many posters here will label the girl as BPD , but to me I choose to collect my side of the fault rather than pit my downfalls on another person.
I have taken a number of times reading threads and sometimes responding from my healing stage. I came to a conclusion that 95% of the people asking for advice and help on this forum are not alphas or betas ...they are simply "NICE GUYS". I know the difference because I enjoyed a ton of action in highschool and early stages of university until I got into my relationship and lost my frame and dignity as a man.
If many of you posters are willing to be truthful and give an accurate summary of yourself as a person ( you don't have to post it ) BUT your struggles go beyond getting women. You are passive , you are too nice to your family , boss , friends simply because you fear TENSION. You don't want to disappoint anyone not even yourself , so you continue being nice hoping somebody will notice and give you love and attention. Well that's not a road you want to travel because you WILL end up with a bpd woman because no SANE woman will choose a NICE GUY.
Growing up black , mainly in highschool I was in crews that most people will label as gangs and to be honest , I got most of my action from there.
One woman was not a priority because I knew there are other women , I said no when I disagree with something and said what was on my mind because I simply didn't care.
That my friends is looking out for YOU and your YOUR needs. Women feed of this and they can sense it even before you open your mouth. If you are smart and have the posture and body language game doen , they can sense it from your first sentence. Hench , " OMG he was so cute until he opened his mouth ".
Best advise I can give you is to stop being overly nice. Read " No more Mr. Nice Guy , read self growth books and everything you do from now on should be about YOU.
Stop pleasing your mom , dad , friends and the old you because subconsciously you are part of the problem.
Wake up tomorrow and feel a new you , say no to things you disagree with and speak for your self.
Blessing be upon you all and keep growing brothers.
*** I know many of you hold down jobs and are scared to speak up due to losing your job position***
What I have been doing for the last 4 months at work has been the counter idea.
1) Say no in a polite manner
2) Offer a way you think will get the job down better/ Reasonable explanation.
Many of you work but have no clue of your rights , there are things you can dispute and if your boss fires you ...you can take legal action. Make sure he knows you KNOW your rights.
