"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Forget all the DJ mind fvck/ approach nonsense you've got stuck in your head

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Seriously. Forget all the threads about approach, what's "best", the "tricks" to "make" chicks like you and all that other weirdo sht.

All you have to do is approach chicks like a NORMAL person and not like some overthinking whack-a-doo.

At work:

Hey! How's your work day going? Talk quick about yours and ask their name. Do it with all chicks at your job. You'll wind up meeting them all. Make small talk about work or things they're working on.

At a club: "Damn this friggin place is loud as hell! I need to get some drinks till my brain shuts my ears off!" or "Where's the bathroom in this joint?" "What kind of drink is that?"

Out: Hey! Nice shoes! I know a few chicks who have them. Good choice! What's your name? (Chicks love getting compliments on their shoes..It's weird as hell but they do. lol) Even if the chick brushes you off tell her your name and nice meeting you.

Forget about thinking about talking to her, or her not "liking" you/ "rejecting" you. Don't hesitate or your mind will start putting fear and doubt etc. into you.

There is nothing to fear but fear itself. Don't worry about the "no's" it's the YES'S that count.

Think of it as talking to a dude you just met. You don't care if the dude doesn't want to talk. You just talk and BS about random sht.

All you really have to do is talk about the situation your in, place your at, ask about their work day at work, or anything OTHER than focusing on asking/ wondering if she has a boyfriend/ if she "likes" you etc.

Most ALL chicks will start talking. Make small talk about whatever or wherever you are at. Exchange names and see if she keeps blabbing (the more the better) and then tell her to give you her number and you'll text her yours.

If you worked in a place doing sales with say all of the hottest girls alive you wouldn't run to a corner and hide or simply just quit the job...You'd HAVE to talk to them about all kinds of BS like you were talking to other dudes. You'd get so used to it you'd see there isn't some secret PUA or "DJ" nerd nonsense to it. You'd just talk, get to know them quick and possibly exchange numbers or see them again while meeting more and more doing the same thing NORMAL people do ALL THE TIME.

Don't overthink anything. Ask regular questions about what's going on, where you are at, anything but focusing on trying to "pick her up". If the chick likes the way you look, likes the random conversation she'll either keep talking to you, talk to you again next time, or exchange numbers with you when you pull out your phone and tell her to give you hers. EVEN IF ONE or a FEW don't? You keep talking to new ones the same way normal dudes do all the freakin time..

It really is THAT easy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You're milking all that sweet "reputation points." Stop trying.
 

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BeDJ said:
You're milking all that sweet "reputation points." Stop trying.
If I actually gave a crap about reputation points I'd not have gotten myself banned last time. Real talk.
 
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HumbleNinja said:
If I actually gave a crap about reputation points I'd not have gotten myself banned last time. Real talk.
This thread speaks otherwise.
 

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This is nice advice and all, but time and time again, this type of pep talk is worthless. It's just another idea...

The fact is, most men don't approach because it's terrifying to do it the first number of times. And to be honest when you're trying to approach a women and get her number, or even just have a decent conversation when you can't even say hi. You're just going to avoid the whole thing.

If you can't even say "hi" to a complete stranger at the bus stop or at school or at the mall, etc. Then start small. Ask for directions to places. Get used to just innocently talking to women. Why? Because you need something small and manageable that you can work with.

You'll never have success until you start breaking past your fears.

So stop reading this bull**** and ask 25 women for directions to somewhere this week.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BeDJ said:
You're milking all that sweet "reputation points." Stop trying.
Why was the Ninja Man so uptight about this comment.
I rather take it as a compliment. :)

Back to the topic, I think this place promote good advices in the general term like "Be a Man", "Be your best self" etc, and it's best that we see SS as a big mentor and the users in here as friends. People in the past do not have the luxury of having a big mentor available any time they want like us do, some even never had the chance to meet a wise person, so they lost in their lives without any help.

However, a mentor can only show you the way, he cannot lead you all the way through your lives. You have to take what works specifically for you and discard what doesn't.

The problem we have here is not SS it self, but the users in it. As I said, we can see them as friends, and we all know that friends give sh!tty advice all the time, for example our friend Viral above, said that "So stop reading this bullsh!t and ask 25 women for directions to somewhere this week.", which is one of the most retarded and ignorant advice I've ever read. But that's ok, he is a friend and we all have stupid friends as well as wise friends. :D

My point is the general ideas of this forum are very valuable, and we should not discard the whole thing. On the other hand, we should take the advices from other posters with a grain of salt and not mistaken it with the main theme of SS.
 
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