"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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We've gone on 6 dates, her interest level is definitely very high but I got a mixed signal on our last date.

I picked her up from the train station but when I arrived there were 2 guys asking for her facebook :lol::lol:o_O. While she was getting into my car she was saying bye to the guys and then told me she "was flirting because I didn't have anything else to do since you were 20 minutes late". However at the same time she had a bouquet of flowers for me and said she was looking forward to the date all week.

She isn't a gf, but I thought it was a bit disrespectful to openly flirt in from of me and then hold the car door open while doing so. I didn't know what to do at the time so I just laughed it off.

Should I brush it off, next her or confront?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So keep f*cking her well, because her interest level at the moment isnt that high for her to be doing sh*t like thar
 

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Just play it off.

If she isn't your girlfriend, then to.be honest she has the right to flirt with those dudes. You don't own her, she isn't your property. This site preaches spinning plates... until you've agreed that you're in an exclusive relationship, she is allowed to play the field.

I'm not saying what she did isn't disrespectful, but be wary of double standards. I would think she either wanted to see how you'd react (and potentially get you jealous so you'd push for commitment) or you're not screwing her good enough.

Don't bring it up with her. If you have to do so, make sure it's jokingly and like you're not threatened by it. She either wants more attention from men (bad sign) or wanted to see how you'd react. Just keep doing what you're doing.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Just play it off.

If she isn't your girlfriend, then to.be honest she has the right to flirt with those dudes. You don't own her, she isn't your property. This site preaches spinning plates... until you've agreed that you're in an exclusive relationship, she is allowed to play the field.

I'm not saying what she did isn't disrespectful, but be wary of double standards. I would think she either wanted to see how you'd react (and potentially get you jealous so you'd push for commitment) or you're not screwing her good enough.

Don't bring it up with her. If you have to do so, make sure it's jokingly and like you're not threatened by it. She either wants more attention from men (bad sign) or wanted to see how you'd react. Just keep doing what you're doing.
I'm very aware she's not my gf, which is why I explained the "saying bye while having the car door open". It was literally like the ending of flirting with another guy that was in front of me as I was sat in the car like an idiot. My instinct would have been to just leave her at the train station (which would have shown that what she did was not okay) but the flowers saved it.

There is also another problem. We've gone on 6 dates and I've paid for everything (each date roughly has cost £85/$120). There were a few times were she offered to pay but it's only been for the very small bills (under £10/$14) but after the 4th date she stopped offering. Do you guys know how to get the girl to start to pay a little or is it something I have to be direct about?
 

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We've gone on 6 dates, her interest level is definitely very high but I got a mixed signal on our last date.

I picked her up from the train station but when I arrived there were 2 guys asking for her facebook :lol::lol:o_O. While she was getting into my car she was saying bye to the guys and then told me she "was flirting because I didn't have anything else to do since you were 20 minutes late". However at the same time she had a bouquet of flowers for me and said she was looking forward to the date all week.

She isn't a gf, but I thought it was a bit disrespectful to openly flirt in from of me and then hold the car door open while doing so. I didn't know what to do at the time so I just laughed it off.

Should I brush it off, next her or confront?
She is starting the sh!t tests already too see how you will react and what she can get away with. She sounds like a tester.

Treat her as nothing more than a f*uck buddy until she can prove to be higher quality. Right now she doesn't so i would just ignore the behaviour and just keep treating her as a fb
 

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I'm very aware she's not my gf, which is why I explained the "saying bye while having the car door open". It was literally like the ending of flirting with another guy that was in front of me as I was sat in the car like an idiot. My instinct would have been to just leave her at the train station (which would have shown that what she did was not okay) but the flowers saved it.

There is also another problem. We've gone on 6 dates and I've paid for everything (each date roughly has cost £85/$120). There were a few times were she offered to pay but it's only been for the very small bills (under £10/$14) but after the 4th date she stopped offering. Do you guys know how to get the girl to start to pay a little or is it something I have to be direct about?
Flirting with other guys right in front of you... never paying....i would never promote this one if i were you.
 

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So keep f*cking her well, because her interest level at the moment isnt that high for her to be doing sh*t like thar
She's very attractive but the sex sucks, but then again that is my type (I care about looks 90%, sex 10%). The straw that I remembered was when she ordered a bottle (knowing that I was driving), had a glass and then decided to just leave the bottle like it cost nothing which shows she has no respect for my wallet.

I decided to send her a 'next' text and she quickly responded by unfollowing my instagram ;););):rofl:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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