Flakiness: How to proceed? And how much I hate it! (No One-itis BS!!!)

[Lotus Effect]

So, just to inform you guys!

Woke up today with a message from her. Its laughable to say the least:

Aww Lotus, sorry and do not hate me but I'll have to bail. I just received more text from the book I'm translating so I'll have to do it! I'm a working girl now! But I promise that when you come back from the beach I'll make it up to you if you still want it hahaha. I'm really sorry.
And good morning

That message was sent 8 in the morning! I've never seen this girl up so early. But due to our date being at 2pm she made a special effort to flake at a plausible time! Hahahaha!

I'm still not sure if I reply to this BS or not, after all, there is nothing to be said, but one thing I'm certain. That one is a goner, so 'click click NEXT'

Well...
Like everything, there is always a lesson to be learned!

Today's lesson boys: The gut is always right

Thanks guys! Peace!

 

[Jariel]

Yeah, time to back off from this one now. It seems like there is potential there, but something is holding her back. It might just be a bad time for her.

I can relate to this in all fairness. I've cancelled and flaked quite a lot the last months, mainly because I've not been over my ex. A couple of months ago I had the opportunity to go on a date with a girl I've been crazy about for years. At one time I would've given anything to be with her, but I actually flaked on her! I made up some excuse about a job interview, because I just didn't feel ready to date her. My emotions were still high over my ex, my confidence was still low and I just didn't want to put myself in that position.

She was really cool about it and wished me luck on the job interview, but then fell silent on me. She still likes my Facebook updates and doesn't seem butthurt by my rejection, but she has backed off and now I'm gutted!

Same thing happened with the first girl I dated on the rebound from my ex. I liked her a lot and she was really into me, but I ended up flaking on her and she just went silent on me. I regret that now too and would love another chance with her!

My point is that sometimes interest can be sky high, but the timing can be wrong. This is why you should never burn your bridges by getting angry, but also why you shouldn't chase either. If you give it time, she might start to regret flaking just as I did on those two girls, and she might end up chasing you.

 

[nismo-4]

I knew from the get go your princess was in another castle.

On the real dude, women who are interested in you won't confuse you. They won't throw out mixed signals either. Did you ask yourself if she would flake on a date with George Clooney?

High interest is when she doesn't flake on you or bangs you. Anything else is just fluff. It's 2014, and I have very little tolerance for female bullsh*t. Women who flake KNOW they're flaking! Such b**ches just want the attention. Positive signals are not that reliable.

OP, get rid of her ass. She already rejected you.

Case closed.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Yeah, the minute she flaked I've got the same feeling. Case closed indeed!

I gave her another chance, and as Vlad said back there, one flake is not certain, two flakes are a certain NO.

So yeah, I went silent on her. Already onto the next one! (Which is being way way more receptive)

Sorry posting such BS in here. Anyway, it always adds up to the learning experience baggage!

Thanks guys!