flaked on a girl

[checkavailability7]

so, this past sunday i was supposed to meet up with a girl i met but i flaked.

we had been eyeing each other at the gym we frequent for the last week.

i don't 'pick up' or talk with others at the gym but i felt what the hell. she chose the treadmill next to me - despite others being available. i looked over seeing she was working out pretty good and eyeing my water bottle. i joked not a chance in hell she was having any of mine and it went from there. for the past week we would make chit chat. anyway, on thursday she came over to where i was asked for my # and if i wanted to get together some time.

so we exchanged # and i told we should meet up sunday around 7 pm and i would call during the day for directions to her place. told i was going to hit the batting cages at the local park and we would get together for some coffee afterwards as well.

sunday came and went and i didnt call her. another girl i have been dating invited me over sunday afternoon and i stayed there.

so tomorrow i will likely see her at the gym and likely she will feel like shi+.

how would you guys handle this? i still wanna see her sometime. i'm thinking i should lie and say i called her and got no answer.

 

[AirborneDoc82ndABN]

I would go with something came up.. It's not like you are dating or anything. Besides, letting her know you have stuff going on is not a bad thing. Just make sure you are giving the right vibe and let her know you would like to see her this weekend, if you want to.

 

[checkavailability7]

saw her today and she wouldnt even look at me - obviously pissed.

don't want to make an excuse now because i still could have called and let her know instead of leaving her hanging.

i think the best thing to do is approach her next time i see her and be friendly. i'll pretend she flaked on me and make fun of her for it and hopefully let her save face. she will probably react positively and i'll set up another date.

 

[drtk]

saw her today and she wouldnt even look at me - obviously pissed.

don't want to make an excuse now because i still could have called and let her know instead of leaving her hanging.

i think the best thing to do is approach her next time i see her and be friendly. i'll pretend she flaked on me and make fun of her for it and hopefully let her save face. she will probably react positively and i'll set up another date.

IMO that's exactly the right thing to do.

 

[DonJuan11]

we had been eyeing each other at the gym we frequent for the last week.

so we exchanged # and i told we should meet up sunday around 7 pm and i would call during the day for directions to her place. told i was going to hit the batting cages at the local park and we would get together for some coffee afterwards as well.

sunday came and went and i didnt call her. another girl i have been dating invited me over sunday afternoon and i stayed there.

so tomorrow i will likely see her at the gym and likely she will feel like shi+.

how would you guys handle this? i still wanna see her sometime. i'm thinking i should lie and say i called her and got no answer.

Dude come on. She's a person just like you who wanted to spend some time with you. What kind of treatment is that? Why would even make a date with her if you are seeing another girl? How do you think that girl would feel is she knew you were making other dates?

I don't even know if you should apologize because it sounds like you don't even care about girls' feelings.

 

[PRMoon]

Dummas! Could have just called her and asked for a raincheck last second and created interest and avoided this.

Anyway when you saw her again you should have run up to her and said you had a "family emergency" and got tied up. Nobody investigates into that. And if they do just say your Mom, Dad, Brother, Sister, Grandma, Grandpa Uncle had a car accident, or collapsed, or was taken ill, Lost their house (very plauseable these days), was kidnapped by the mob...you know what i mean. Such an easy move to make it's almost obvious.

 

[Corona]

Dummas! Could have just called her and asked for a raincheck last second and created interest and avoided this.

Anyway when you saw her again you should have run up to her and said you had a "family emergency" and got tied up. Nobody investigates into that. And if they do just say your Mom, Dad, Brother, Sister, Grandma, Grandpa Uncle had a car accident, or collapsed, or was taken ill, Lost their house (very plauseable these days), was kidnapped by the mob...you know what i mean. Such an easy move to make it's almost obvious.

I'd go with the "I lost my phone" excuse, that's always a winner because anyone can make a 1 minute phone call or 15 second text no matter how busy they are.

But, on the other hand, if you lost your phone...

 

[checkavailability7]

so, saw her last saturday at the gym.

went up to her all positive asked what's going on. she was a kinda aloof and didnt look at me. we made small talk and she started to warm up.

so i kinda just went so what happened sunday and she goes you didnt call. i turned it around and said that i did and started teasing her about her phone how it sucks and misses calls from cool guys ( she was making fun of my phone cause hers is an fancy iphone ). she goes she felt stupid and thought i stood her up.

she we agreed to try it again. got a really good vibe from her. she came over to me later on before she left. told we would see each other tuesday at the gym and make plans for later on in the week.

just wondering: should i plan for the batting cages again or something completely different?