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Flake vs. Respect

Satin

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I've been on dating/meeting women overload lately between bars, online, and even random places (Target, the airport, etc) and I've just gotten used to flaking being a part of the game for most girls.

I just had a girl who I only went out with a couple of times make a big deal to tell me that she couldn't start a new relationship now, etc. because of some specific family issues which I know are true, but reading through the ******** is more likely due to an ex-boyfriend or another guy. Anyway, she and I did hit it off, but it was just a couple of dates, and it's not like we were exclusive or anything.

She seemed to be nervous telling me this, but I give her a lot of respect. Most girls would simply avoid your call, not respond to texts, etc, especially for the fact that it's not like she was obligated to give me any reasons.

I basically told her that it was no problem, that I had fun with her, and that maybe I'd see her around. There wasn't much more for me to say than that, as I did think she was cool, but didn't have much invested in her at this point.

I only post this because given the amount of flakey and chickensh1t chicks out there, it's nice to see that there are some stand-up girls in the mix.

satin
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Tiguere

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were you looking pressuring her for a relationship?

maybe she is just looking for a badboy to have casual sex /fling booty call type of deal and your niceguy aura scared her away.
 

Satin

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I wasn't giving her any pressure in any direction, and we never even talked about things like relationships...just had fun going out together. My normal self is definitely a guy who treats girls well, but I didn't get any vibe that she was just looking for a booty call (which would have been okay with me), and I did escalate things physically with her as much as she would go.

It was definitely a positive experience...just didn't get beyond the point of being a short term thing.

satin
 
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