First year of university, need some help/advice

[CarpeDiem]

I never really did develop any game in highschool. I've only ever had one girlfriend, it lasted 3 years. Since then, ive never really gotten close to any girl, much less gone out on a date. I'm in my first year of university now and I realize that there are plenty of opportunities all around me. Im a fairly confident guy, if there's people I need to talk to for some reason, or questions I need to ask, I usually do just fine. I think the main problem is that I am an awful conversationalist. When im with my friends I do just fine, but put me in a room with someone I don't know (male or female), I'm just no good. I can't even start to think about flirting, cause I know I need to actually say something to the person first.

Any tips, advice, anything?

 

[The Immortal]

Well first and foremost the important thing is to enjoy yourself and your new life in college.

When it comes to meeting women in situations such as college where there is a tight and consistent social network, one of the mistakes i see some people make is they will focus all their attention on one or two girls they are into, and neglect being social with everyone else. big mistake. Be social with guys, and remember, theres nothing wrong with doing a little flirting even with girls you arent interested in, so long as it isnt leading them on. Be friendly even to the unnatractive girls. They have attractive friends and getting in good with as many people as possible only increases your chances of success.

Do not try too hard though. Just socialize with everyone as if they were people you have known forever, and things will work in your favor. Let me know how things go!

The Immortal

 

[CarpeDiem]

I find it hard to socialize at all though. I mean, I go to class, the lecture starts so everyone is silent for the next hour-hour and a half, then once class is over, everyone rushes to their next class.