its my first time im going out with this girl i really like.. well she wanted to hang out with me as friends or somthing like that. i wanna try and go out on a real date with her but dont know if she wants to be just friends any tips on hwo i can figure out if she likes me and if so how do i advance from there. im new to this type of stuff and any help would be apreciated heres wat i got planned. she wanted to smoke up with me so ima do that then i was thinking about getting her to get some food with me and after that i was gonna go and shoot pool with my bro and see if she would want to stay shoot some pool and have a few drinks any ideas?
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Here's an idea: have fun instead of over analyzing.
Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and her for a "real date", whatever you may think that is. The point of a "date" or hang out session is to have FUN, you're approaching this whole thing like you're dealing with science experiment.
Take her where you want to go. Just make sure that you're both having a good time, and keep things light.
Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and her for a "real date", whatever you may think that is. The point of a "date" or hang out session is to have FUN, you're approaching this whole thing like you're dealing with science experiment.
Take her where you want to go. Just make sure that you're both having a good time, and keep things light.
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dude sounds like u got it figured out to me, u got the most important things for a date. A girl and a place to go, GOOD JOB thats all u need. Now i can give u loads of advice on dates, but u have nothing to specific for me to help u on, which i don't doubt seeing its ur first time. For this one just have fun, if something goes wrong dw, us guys r here to help u for next time. Like Vice said no pressure dude.
For the friends thing though, just make sure u don't fall in that zone, if ur already in, to bad next it and learn ur lesson from next time. But if u keep it playful and fun, with kino and no high expectations of her liking u, It will b kool. If she trys to put u in "aw ur a nice guy" "aw ur such a good friend", just make replys such has "lol ur really hurting my feelings bad guys don't like to b called nice" or "nah, but ur a very good enemy think u will reach number 1 enemy by the end of night".
To b honest though dude do it how ever u like i am not really thinking this date has a relationship with u and that girl, but rather a learning experience for the future. U will learn some things from that date and thats all that matters for now man.
Have a good time dude and don't think to much.
For the friends thing though, just make sure u don't fall in that zone, if ur already in, to bad next it and learn ur lesson from next time. But if u keep it playful and fun, with kino and no high expectations of her liking u, It will b kool. If she trys to put u in "aw ur a nice guy" "aw ur such a good friend", just make replys such has "lol ur really hurting my feelings bad guys don't like to b called nice" or "nah, but ur a very good enemy think u will reach number 1 enemy by the end of night".
To b honest though dude do it how ever u like i am not really thinking this date has a relationship with u and that girl, but rather a learning experience for the future. U will learn some things from that date and thats all that matters for now man.
Have a good time dude and don't think to much.
so i went out with her she ended up bring 2 friends this guy i used to work with and her brother i basically got shut the **** out i called my brother and ended up goin to the bar with him i dont think she has any atraction to me at all but idk like i said im new with this whole thing any ideas how to get her to hang out with me alone?and im new to the site wats kino?
rushing dude 123
Master Don Juan
kino is any form of touch, light tap on arm, thumb wars etc....
I could guess u may of not read don juan bible, seeing u don't know what kino means and ur new, if u click this link
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/ it will tell u everything u need to know. (recommend reading senor fingers weapons of mass seduction and pook)
For this chick, so let me get this correct u want to go out with her alone and how do u do this.
Coffin: Hey i want to go out with u alone
simple, if she declines then next her and put ur time in other more better chicks.
Dude congratulations though for going out, things r not always has they seem, but now u got some experience for next time.
I could guess u may of not read don juan bible, seeing u don't know what kino means and ur new, if u click this link
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/ it will tell u everything u need to know. (recommend reading senor fingers weapons of mass seduction and pook)
For this chick, so let me get this correct u want to go out with her alone and how do u do this.
Coffin: Hey i want to go out with u alone
simple, if she declines then next her and put ur time in other more better chicks.
Dude congratulations though for going out, things r not always has they seem, but now u got some experience for next time.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.