"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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First time i used my balls.

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*Let me Start by saying i have NEVER APPROACHED A GIRL.. or even talked to a girl with intentions too to get with her*

So let me tell you alittle about me. Iv been with 6 woman. Eithor short term relationships or one night stands. Basically all of them have been interested in me first. I consider myself a good looking guy. I have been hit on by woman a good amount of times.. i just have really low confidence. I was fat most of my life and just now am i getting slim at 22.

Yesterday i made HUGE progress in the art of having some balls. I was going thru the mcdonalds drive thru.. When i only have a few bucks i buy double cheese burgers and throw out the buns to save on the calories.. so i pull up to the window and 2 woman are inside. The woman and the woman behind her are full of smiles. I say hi and then she asks my name.. i tell her and she talks with her friend and then gives her a thumbs up. The woman from behind her comes up to the window and asks my age and starts small talk. My instincts told me to get her number.. but i didnt. It kinda went quiet for a moment and i said bye. Dam another missed opertunity.

So i went back the next day and she was there.. i engaged her and asked for her number this time. She was acting weird now.. she was like umm umm i dont know.. But she had me really confused cuz she was smiling and acting flirty. So shes still going umm and i go how about you just take my number down. She did and that was that.. First time i have ever done anything like that and it felt really good to actually use my balls!!!

Now is this girl playing hard to get or just didnt want to go for me because i didnt ask for her number the first time i saw her?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I used to be very shy and unconfident. I would almost never talk to woman and if I did I would never have the courage to ask them out or for their number. But after a while I started to realize by not asking I failed 100% of the time. It's better to ask and get rejected then to not ask at all. Because at least you tried and at least you will know instead of thinking what if I had asked. Also the reason why she didn't give you her number could be a couple of things. One maybe you misread her the first time and mistaken her smiling and being friendly as her hitting on you. Two woman are always changing their mind. I've always said this strike when the iron is hot. I can remember countless amounts of times when I had girls with very high interest towards me and I didn't make a move then the next time she had little to no interest towards me. Who knows why woman are crazy.
 

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Striking when the iron is hot. I like that. Seems to be dead on too.. when your momentem is flowing just seal it there... i mean its a struggle right now to get the ball rolling.. so when i notice its going.. im gonna strike!!! Its still hits me kinda slow.. like oh ****.. you might actually have a chance here lol.
 

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King said:
AaronNow is this girl playing hard to get or just didnt want to go for me because i didnt ask for her number the first time i saw her?
Kudos for your approach. When you start out, its much harder to hit a home run so take it one step at a time.

You should have asked her the first time. You know what they say "those who hesitate - masterbate".

You also got to be aware of the fact that sometimes even if a girl drops plenty of IOI's, she may not want you to pick her up but is doing it for other reasons. That is why it is a numbers game, and you need to ask more girls for their numbers instead of dwelling on those girls who wouldn't give you their numbers. You may strike gold on the first number or it make take you up to 5 or 6 tries.
 

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Thanks for the kudos djdamage.

Another thing is when im talking to girls now im mostly focused on them instead of myself.. and its funny cuz i put girls on pedestils.. so now when i talk to girls.. there really not meeting my expectations. I would just judge them from there looks and what i personally thought about them from there looks. This girl at mcdonalds.. well do i need to say more really. She was just a pretty face from what i gatherd so far.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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good for you man!!!! You had the balls to approach!!!! That's awesome. Try to push yourself to keep doing these things these guy talk about. You'll feel like a champ and it will all start to flow easily for you. The farther you push yourself out of your comfort zone the more comfortable you are with....EVERYTHING and the easier that life becomes.
 
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