"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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First time clubbing this weekend, need advice

erivera571

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Gonna go hit up some club this weekend w/ my boi, some info about me:

fairly tall 6'4"-6'5"
currently a student
living at home
part time job
fairly new car (2007)

Being as how I've never been to a club b4, what should I expect? What should I wear? How long do you usually hang around b4 leaving? Do you need an ID? Is it 18 or 21 yrs old to enter? Any suggestions are welcome.

Thanks
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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D'light

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the club scene is a lot of fun "IF" you make it fun. It all depends on what you do. Since your tall, if you at least have a decent body and not an ugly face girls will be all over you (they LOVE tall guys) I'm 6'1 which isnt short but not "hot guy" tall.

I'm assuming this place will have a dance floor. If so, my guess is this place doesnt get crowded until much later (almost midnight). My advice would be if there are other bars in the area go to them first to have a few drinks with your buds. While you are there get a few approaches in to warm up.

When you get to the "club" come in slow and smile. This way all the girls can see you and wonder who you are (especially since you are a new guy there if they are regulars). Usually I'd get a drink at that point and converse with a few women (it depends on the dance floor. If it's good, you may just want to finish your drink and jump on it. If it's still lacking, I would chat up some more girls. Eventually it will be getting ok, at which time you can ask if they want to go dance on it. IF they are digging ya, they'll go).

Once you get on the floor, MOVE. Don't stand around. Best way to find a girl to dance with is with one friend. there are many many groups of 2/3 girls so one other guy works best (the classic wingman). I've tried all sorts of things and the two that work best are approaching the girl where she can see you and asking her to dance (sounds lame but i swear by it- it really does work and you give instant nice guy value which is great in a club in my opinion.)

the other approach is to just grab a girl and go with it. always watch her friend and judge her reaction she will give the girl clues about whether or not you look good (that's what it all boils down to sad i know). From this point just have fun. If you get bored after a few songs find a new girls. Once the other ones see how fun you are it gets easy and they will line up for you to change women.

at this point you have your pick of the house. when the time is right go in for a kiss/ get a number/ do your thing. that's in my opinion, how to work a club.
 

alwaysimproving7

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Best advice to give you...As soon as you enter the club within 3 secs hop into a set ASAP. No going to the bathroom, no getting a drink, no eyeballin girls. Just straight up go into a set and start talking.

The B!tch shield is always going to be up a lot more at clubs too it doesn't matter how good looking you are. So remember that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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