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I met a girl last week. We hung out sunday afternoon but only for like 30 minutes bc we both had to be somewhere. All we did was eat frozen yogurt and talk. It seemed to go well. We have been texting since. I asked her what her plans were for the week and all she has is work tomorrow night. So what should I ask her to do? I guess this is still kind of a first date since the other one was so short. I live in a small town. All we have is movies, bowling, golf, eating and thats about it. Unless I try to take her up on a picnic or something. I know I could ask her to come hang out with me and my friends but honestly they drink and cuss way too much and she is a big christian girl so that's out.
 

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Drinking (without your friends) would be the best choice. Even if it were just a glass or two of wine.

Golf or bowling can be fun. But I normally save events like that for girls I've already had sex with. It's hard to talk to a woman in between rolling a bowling ball. So, those dates are best after you've gotten to know the girl, and you dont want to hear her yapping all night.

Dinner or movies would be the worst choices. Dinner just puts you to sleep, and movies just keep you silent.
 
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I like the ideas..only problem is she's 19 haha. We had talked about a restaurant and specialty shop that we wanted to show each other. The only thing is it is about an hour out of town. Is it too soon to ask about doing that?
 
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