First love reaching out

[Dingo]

Don't get wasted...
Don't get high...
Bang her !

 

[Murk]

Sorry Dingo we got high - she asked me to bring it so we could smoke up before the movie and I just wanted to finish it as I don't want weed in my house. It didn't matter anyway as the day before (Monday) I found out I have chlamydia (again) from the girl I was seeing (Sophie) when I found out I had it last month. Basically I've ended up getting it back from Sophie - we met in the clinic after work on Monday getting our antibiotics (after I text her some fake clean results!) - so awkward. So last night I'm going into this meeting with Katie (OP girl) knowing i can't bang her for 7 days - she's never had an STD - if I give her one I would get exposed to all our mutual friends and family - can't risk it.

Anyway, I met her straight from work, had fun, laughed, told me her boyfriend keeps calling and showed me a string of unknown number missed calls over the past few days as she is refusing to speak to him. Shopped for munchies, light kino in the movies, we're stroking each other and shes holding/playing with my hands.

We get in her car and she takes me home, she stops the car and I just say bye and go to peck her, I'm more aiming for cheek and she goes for lips, bit awkward as we weren't on the same page - I don't really care at this point how she feels - I can't bang her and i can't tell her why so I'm not gonna go there and her thinking my interest is lower than her is a good thing anyway.

I'm disappointed because again I wasn't my usual self (high, plus an std) and it didn't have the usual flow my meetings with women have. She text me later that I better not smoke the last joint without her. I text this morning that I'm not smoking any more as it makes me paranoid and worried (I haven't smoked for years) - she replies she will never leave me. I ignore her general texts it's now lunch time at work and she text:

Her: How's work?
Her: U missing me yet? :laugh face:

I really just want to say "yeah, come to mine tonight bla bla bla" but now I need to avoid sex with her for a week - while also not coming across as beta in the process as I've already failed last weekend and even the weekend before when she slept in my bed. However it's a blessing in disguise because I would have given her an STD if we did bang so it worked out OK.

Shall I wait it out a week and then come on super strong? Confused.

 

[Murk]

So we just spoken on the phone for an hour (don't read too much into the time we did 3+ hours in our younger days) - we spoke about her meeting many of my family and how good the party on the weekend was. She said she felt good about how this is going, we've spent more time together in 2 weeks than we have in the previous year or two. I said I'm happy with the direction of things too and I've enjoyed spending time with her. We are meeting tomorrow, she wants do to something "chilled". I can't bang her with a condom knowing I have chlamydia... can I?





4 days until I can have sex.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I don’t see what the problem is. Make plans to smash 4 days from now. Don’t go NC till then, but limit it so things don’t get stale once you do bang. You’d probably be telling yourself this if you were reading this from someone else.

I find it extra funny how you two both know you guys like each other to the point where you can both talk about it openly lol. Yet neither of you are making actual moves it seems to actively be with each other. And I believe that you guys both do that for the same reason. You don’t want to seem needy or desperate, and she doesn’t want to seem clingy or overbearing. You guys ARE alike. This is where the concept of ‘strike while the iron is hot’ comes from. Because of reasons like this.

 

[Murk]

I guess I’m hesitant to pull the trigger on this because of the history, mutuals, her judging me etc. It’s just easier with women I am meeting first time or there abouts.

Her parents are away for 2 weeks from next week and she wants me there as the house is huge and she doesn’t wanna be alone. There’s plenty opportunity to smash coming up.

 

[QuadDeuces]

Tell her you have been feeling a little burny lately and that you just took an STD test this morning, you get the results in 4 days but until that time you want to use a condom.

After 4 days you tell her the test was clean.

 

[Murk]

@MidnightCity ok ok I hear your point im a little apprehensive, fear of commitment - it’s easier with someone who doesn’t know your life story, warts and all.

@QuadDeuces we are open and close but not that open and close... we have not openly discussed banging it’s just implied and when high she askedabout my d1ck

 

[greatsnake]

ignore her for a while so it eats her up.

 

[Murk]

She told me last night to get an std test and stop spinning plates lol

 

[Murk]

Update

She wanted to do something last Saturday but I had plans so said we would reschedule. I went on a Bumble date Friday after work which lead to sex, she called mid date and I said I was out having a drink with someone and would talk to her later. She knew it was a date and didn't contact me all weekend. I reached out on Monday over the phone as her texts were short, she said she was annoyed that I was still out meeting girls etc as we were both clear that we would, after all these year, put all our efforts into each other and see what would happen.

I responded saying she is still technically with her BF, potentially going on a 2 week holiday to the Dominican Republic in 2 weeks with him, so why should I put everything out there when she could turn around and say "I'm back with him" - she kind of went silent on that. Then said she doesn't think I will change and I will always want attention from multiple girls and maybe we should leave it, I said "fine, I'm not going to force you into anything" then she said she wants to have dinner with me at my families place soon...

So it feels like she's trying to lock me down as something stable to monkey branch to... but I'm not going to just wait around. My friend who knows us both agrees, he said keep spinning plates just don't let her know about it.

Anyway - we went for a drink after work yesterday, our friend last minute came along - she gets a call from her BF who now is unblocked on her phone. Basically proving me right. I've convinced her to have a BBQ this Saturday, she has asked me to come early to help set it up, then said to come over Friday and stay the night and that she wants me to make breakfast Sunday morning. She wants to come back with me to my place on Sunday.

I'm just going to see if I can smash this weekend but continue seeing and talking to girls, I am cautious until BF is fully out the picture.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

she said she was annoyed that I was still out meeting girls etc as we were both clear that we would, after all these year, put all our efforts into each other and see what would happen.

I responded saying she is still technically with her BF, potentially going on a 2 week holiday to the Dominican Republic in 2 weeks with him, so why should I put everything out there when she could turn around and say "I'm back with him"

This was good. You flipped the table on her and she can’t really say anything about that.

 

[Fzatf]

Update

She wanted to do something last Saturday but I had plans so said we would reschedule. I went on a Bumble date Friday after work which lead to sex, she called mid date and I said I was out having a drink with someone and would talk to her later. She knew it was a date and didn't contact me all weekend. I reached out on Monday over the phone as her texts were short, she said she was annoyed that I was still out meeting girls etc as we were both clear that we would, after all these year, put all our efforts into each other and see what would happen.

I responded saying she is still technically with her BF, potentially going on a 2 week holiday to the Dominican Republic in 2 weeks with him, so why should I put everything out there when she could turn around and say "I'm back with him" - she kind of went silent on that. Then said she doesn't think I will change and I will always want attention from multiple girls and maybe we should leave it, I said "fine, I'm not going to force you into anything" then she said she wants to have dinner with me at my families place soon...

So it feels like she's trying to lock me down as something stable to monkey branch to... but I'm not going to just wait around. My friend who knows us both agrees, he said keep spinning plates just don't let her know about it.

Anyway - we went for a drink after work yesterday, our friend last minute came along - she gets a call from her BF who now is unblocked on her phone. Basically proving me right. I've convinced her to have a BBQ this Saturday, she has asked me to come early to help set it up, then said to come over Friday and stay the night and that she wants me to make breakfast Sunday morning. She wants to come back with me to my place on Sunday.

I'm just going to see if I can smash this weekend but continue seeing and talking to girls, I am cautious until BF is fully out the picture.

I'd let her know that you'll stop dating other girls once she dumps the bf. If she wants you to be all in, she should be all in.