"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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First Date, Not bad heh?

krasnyiLion

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This girl i met online contacted me a couple of weeks ago, and we started talking, and we hit it off well. Then i asked her if she was off on sunday which she replied "yes" so i told her "great, you can join me then on sunday and get to meet me, do you know how to get here"
her "well i don't know, what city do you live in?"
me " i live in ------ , do you know where --------- is?"
her "oh yeah, of course i have been there before"
me "cool then you won't get lost, come here and as long as you are in (my city) i'll come to you and we'll go from there"
her " i don't have your number though"
me " don't worry about it, give me yours and i will give you a call on sunday"

so i called her, she was busy but made sure to tell me that she WOULD come later on, she came here but got lost so she ended up in another city, which i told her not to worry about it because i knew my way there. i picked her up, we went to eat. i complimented her on her looks (yeah mistake, to some of you but, i busted her balls about her nose, her hair, and i poked at ther weist implying she was getting a little chubby) so my compliments were to validate that i found her attractive.

we ate and we had an ok conversation, she mentioned, other guys so i asked what she wanted from me. what her expectations were, she said she wanted to get to know me and take it from there. i said something of the sort when she asked the same question.

after dinner i gave her several options on places we could go to, but i said
"do you want to go play some mini golf?"
" yeah, i don't mind"
(see the thing here was that she came here she, didn't know any places so wherever i lead her was fine with her, because she wanted to be lead)
i took charge and took her
" by the way i thought it would be nice to ask,but that's where i want to go so we were going there anyway :)"
her " you are mean (with round big eyes and a smile)"

we went there and it was going good and i started applying kino, first slight pat on the back, then poking at her, then a little playful pushing, then tickling trying to make her miss. then i thought to myself ( i got to try a kiss, now, in the MIDDLE of the date when we are having fun, not the pattented kiss at the end of the date when her shield is up and she is expecting that)

so i just looked into her eyes and kissed her ( i was nervous as heck but i gave her enough tension time to either pull back or give me the cheek, which she didn't she responded with a tender soft kiss in the lips, so at this point i was over the kiss) it was funny though cause i was so focus on pulling off the kiss i didn't realise i was kissing her already and i didn't know what to do so soft and slow never a bad idea.

after that things just started to go great, a little competition, playful mutual teasing, it went really good.

at the end of the date i looked at my watch and i told her how much fun it was, how great, and how cool she was, and i told her well i still got some time so lets hang out here for a while. we went outside the car and laydown on top of it, we started kissing.
a lot of kissing and stuff but i pulled away and just lied there looking at the start at which se came closer to me and put her head on my chest and just talked. for a while then i started caresing her arms for like 5 minutes, then her stomach, then i started making fun of her boobs. she got a little defensive (she has nice boobs by the way) so i reasured her that i liked them and that i was just messing so i would make up with them and be friends again, i started touching them and acting as i if i was apologizing to them, next thing she knew i was kissing them and touching them and stuff. she was liking this but i didn't want to go any further.

so we went back to talking, and well at the end i told her she had to go, it was getting late and not to worry she would see me again.

nice date, this was a great date in my opinion ( thought i would share it with you guys and hope you get some things out of my style)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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krasnyiLion

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no one, up to critique it, or give some insight?
 

trance_addict

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NICE.

I always love succesful dates like this.

I'm not sure what your intentions are, but if she let you eff w/ her boobs then I'd say your in the bag to get laid on the next date.

She's obviously comfortable with you touching her body by now, so if you plan on getting more phyisical with this person then you shouldn't have any problems with that.

Overall though, if you maintained the physical contact like you say you did, great work. Keep it up!
 

Ace of Flames

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Sounds like a success to me. Even when you did something that could be considered "messing up", you turned it around in your favor. Also, you showed your balls throughout the date, with the kiss and everything else, so kudos there.

Um.... keep it up? lol. That's all there is to say, really.
 

Phyzzle

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he mentioned, other guys so i asked what she wanted from me. what her expectations were,
That's all you did wrong. Don't ask her what she wants in a guy, it sounds like you're wondering if you are good enough for her. Not the ideal attitude.

Besides, it's not like your gonna make major changes to suit her!

But OK, one little mistake didn't matter.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Randomer

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erm, good job. You could've probably gone farther that night but there's nothin wrong with waitin for 1 more date, specially since it looks obvious to be a next one...
 

krasnyiLion

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true, i could have had sex with her, tonight i mean i was building up the moment, i was going far and pulling back so it gradually she would have thought that things "just happened" ( i love when girls say that hehehehe)

but the thing here is that i wanted to let her want me, not just go for it and appear like any other guy ( i'm sure next date we have something will happen).
besides i kinda wanted to get out of the LJBF zone, for now.

mission acomplished
 
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