"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First date kiss test

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I have done this with the past four girls I have been out with on a first date, and it has worked every time.

My first dates are usually drinks at a bar, standing up at the actual bar. 1-2 hours max. This simple test that I picked up by accident has worked for all four.

After she is finished with her first drink, ask if she wants another. If she says no, she's not having a good time. You should probably end the date right there.

If she says yes, she is interested enough to stay with you. After the drink comes I tend to invade her personal space a bit more and stand closer. Keep light kino touch, and the first time she stares at your eyes for an extended period of time, move in for a kiss.

I've noticed that some girls are surprised but I haven't gotten a rejection so far. In fact, after the first kiss I pull back a bit and the girls have seemed extra flirty. Now they'll touch me or stand closer to me. I might sneak in another kiss if I fee like it. This may feel like a bold move at first, but if a girl is talking to you and hanging around, she's at least interest in kissing you. You have to take the lead here. After your first time it will come naturally, and you will not have that awkward "first kiss" moment at the end of the date.

Out of the four girls above, one ended with same night sex, the other a BJ, the third we banged on second date, and the fourth just happened last night. For the last girl after kissing twice I walked her to her car and we made out a bit more and I grabbed her ass (she loved it) and she wants to meet up again soon.

Doing this demonstrates a few things:

1. You're not intimidated by women. You are confident to go for what you want.

2. You are making it clear that you see her as a woman and that you desire her physically.

3. You are a "fun" guy and you two will have "chemistry". This is how she interprets what you just did.


I'll check back into this thread after I hang out with girl4 again, but it has worked well for me so far.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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A woman that wants to progress the relationship will decide within 5 minutes of you meeting her. I like to introduce a simple game like tic tac tow. If she wins, give her a high-five...but leave your hand lingering. If she hangs onto it or as most would if they are interested, they will interlock their fingers with yours.

Having said that, I wouldn't go for the kiss just yet in a crowded bar. Perhaps the back of it and plant the random kiss.

If that takes places, it's a signal to move her to a different venue and progress from there. You never know where it leads, so always be on the offensive.
 
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