First Approach!

[kody_starr]

I went to a cafe, to chill and read, but also to scope out any hot girls. I do see one cute girl and seat myself next to her table. First, I ask her: "is this seat taken?" She's wearing headphones and can't hear me. I ask her a second time. The third time, she finally hears. "Oooh. No, it isn't," she says surprised.

I'm wracking my brain, should I talk to her, what do i say? After about a minute or so, she finally replaces her headphones.

The only thing that was interesting in this approach is that she was "open" to talking more. If she wasn't, she would've put her earphones back in right away.

What do you think?

 

[snowdog]

It's a start. You're in the field doing approaches, kudos to you. Don't think and analize about it too much. Just keep doing it and have a "whatever" attitude towards it.

OK, I did the eye contact exercise also. Not for an hour, but it was part of my day yesterday. All I can say is, most people are VERY reluctant to make eye contact. As in, they avoid it if at all possible.

And if they do make eye contact, it is extremely fleeting. As in, a millisecond. If you hold eye contact, and they see you smiling precisely at the millisecond they dare to look, they will smile back with relief. People must think eye contact is shady these days. Or they lack confidence. Or something.

If you do it in a proper way, people like eye contact. If you do it in the wrong way, they will think you're creepy.

Just wondering, how old are you and where do you live ect?

 

[Captain]

The first time is the hardest.

You probably should have just started a conversation. If you can't think of anything to say, just ask her opinion on something. Make it up if you have to, back make it sound sincere. It's better than saying nothing because you were too stunned to say anything.

The answer to "should I talk to her?" is always yes.

 

[gonnamakeit]

Awesome job! Now that you have made your first approach that is a huge step and is the shows you are definetly on the right track and you are in action mode and really are going to improve your life. You'll get better each time just keep doing what your doing.