final post: what/how can i learn from my last relationship

[j8snx1]

this is the last time i ever post anything to do with the past. im moved on now but i want to reflect so i can see what to learn from past mistakes! PLEASE help

my last girl (who comes from bad background due to family stuff) and i broke up and her reason was because i didnt 'give her what she wanted' and she never made it clear even while we were dating. i also followed most of the things that you posted for the LTR relationship section of the DJ bible, and things were going well!! i kept her interest up, but apparently it wasnt enough.

ive followed most of what Golden's post said here: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=56293

but i guess them alone arent enough. does what a girl wants depend on the girl as well?


she started getting interested in other guys while we were dating; it made no sense golden. she was all emotionally distant from me and ****, then she goes on and blames me for not giving her what she wants when she never got that fact clear to me, yet she tells me its not because of me that we broke up. she claimed it was heading down hill, i treated her like an inferior being (which i didnt, she based this conclusion from me trying to encourage her @ times..she thought i was making her live up to standards), and what not.

i swear women are confusing, but could you possibly analyze:
a) what i did during our relationship.
b) what she did during the relationship
c) sources for her reasons for being 'bored' in the relationship
d) what i can learn from this nonsense
e) what i can do to (other than the things outside of the basic steps like 'seeing her only once') keep interest HIGH
f) what i can do/say when i notice that the relationship is heading downhill ?

im sorry for the long request, but i would appreciate it greatly if u can help me out here; i want to learn from my mistakes (for one thing, trying to start a LTR during high school) and apply new knowledge to future relationships!

thanks in advance

 

[oakraiderz2]

I think had she been a more stable and confident girl, you two would be fine. For future reference, if she starts doing something that seems sketchy ask her whats up. If she acts stupid and doesnt explain why shes acting like a tool and just plays games, keep her ass to the curb. Its now my bed time...toodle loo...

 

[donpepot]

no u didnt nothing wrong..its normal too looose the thrill and excitement every 2 years..she just get bored and loose interest...
can you handle that.... ? thats the truth if you have no mistakes like you clamed to be...tyhe most sure fire reason she did that bic*y thing is bcoz she got bored...

if you want to take her back..please carefully study this two threads

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=100939

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=82346

and please give me a favor in return i want you to send me the report in every new situation that can happened..so i can monitor it ok...and you can be another example to our fellow dj's who will have same scenario in the future..thanx..trust me on this one ..and dont forget the favor

-donpepot

 

[LikRetsam]

Simple. Getting the girl and keeping the girl are two different ball games.

The DJ bible only helps with one and is sometimes counter-productive in the other.

 

[donpepot]

i swear women are confusing, but could you possibly analyze:
a) what i did during our relationship.
b) what she did during the relationship
c) sources for her reasons for being 'bored' in the relationship
d) what i can learn from this nonsense
e) what i can do to (other than the things outside of the basic steps like 'seeing her only once') keep interest HIGH
f) what i can do/say when i notice that the relationship is heading downhill ?

a) everything became a routine
b) she misses the thrill excitement that once there
c)same answer in letter A
d)woman give more value to what they fear loosing and cant have
e)let her see that your recovered and enjoying life even without her
f)Dont be an AFC.... And make everything exciting

 

[j8snx1]

a) everything became a routine
b) she misses the thrill excitement that once there
c)same answer in letter A
d)woman give more value to what they fear loosing and cant have
e)let her see that your recovered and enjoying life even without her
f)Dont be an AFC.... And make everything exciting

my replies!

a) YES i agree, things were becoming a routine (not on our dates!) at school, since we constantly met up during nutrition and lunch.
b) it turns out that she did lose the excitement
c) yep
d) whether she values me or not i dont care; ive moved on and im sure she sees that
e) haha im sure she notices that too

*****f) so when i DO notice the relationship heading downhill, how do i make things exciting again? or rather...what are some good ways to rekindle the fire?