duke007
Master Don Juan
Here is my field report. As usual it is a little long, but I think it is well worth a read because it discusses DJing an intelligent self-respecting possible sunshine girl with an ASD. Most FRs I notice here involve easy girls. 
I learnt stacks and hopefully you will too.
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For those of you who have been following my progress, you'd know that I've been having some bad luck with my DJing recently.
Chick with BF that flirts like crazy, HotAsian9 who rejects after kiss attempt, immature kid-like girl who has fallen for me, etc etc.
Last night my mate and I (who's getting more and more DJ each time) hit up our favourite club after a month hiatus.
It was a bit of a sausage factory unfortunately, and as the hours wore on it seemed unlikely we'd pick up.
But then at 1:30am, a slice of luck! My friend suggested we take a seat, and right when I was heading over a cute-looking girl with a nice body directly in front of us sat down first.
So immediately I sat down next to her and accused her of stealing our seats in funny way. "We saw them first." She responded well. On asking why she was alone she said she was dancing with her friend but got too hot. Lucky my friend was waiting around to c0ckblock when she got back.
So, I start gaming her, and right from the start I could tell she had an infectious, fun, outgoing personality (possibly sunshine girl). Not the typical nightclub hoe I've cold approached in the past. It was her first time there. This is the type of girl I like because they respond well to C+F.
So I laid it on thick and fast! Everything I could have teased her about I said. She was incredibly easy to pick on, it made my job easy. (Eg living in parents living room, deferred Uni for no reason). And she LOVED it! Everytime time I busted on her she'd show her huge smile and give me that look. As the time went on she began to hit me, including on the legs.
HB: "You're so mean"
Me: "And you LOVE it don't you!"
OR
Me: "Why do like mean guys so much?"
I kinoed more than I'd ever kinoed before. Our arms were touching so it made it easier, but I would have touched her arms/shoulder 10+ times, smelled her hair (she said she hates it when it smells like smoke) and touched her leg roughly 5 times.
I used a constructive pause (from Senor Fingers thread), where I sat with a ****y smirk and made HER awkward, feeling a need to resume the convo.
My favourite technique was push/pull (also from Senor Fingers thread), I'd never properly tried this before so I was keen to give it a go. Let me tell you now that push/pull is SOLID GOLD! Every DJ should make it a part of his repertoire.
I must have done it about 5 times - whenever she said something I didn't agree with. For example, on remembering names because my friend called her the wrong name:
HB: I'm pretty bad at remembering names
Me: Yeah , I bet you don't even remember MY name Alice!"
HB: *embarrassed* Ummm...ahhh...starts with A...Aidan?
Me: *shift my sitting position and face away from her, crossing my arms*
HB *puts two hands on my shoulders to pull me back around while giggling* Noooo Sorry! I have a bad memory blah blah
Each time I did this it worked better than the last time, considerable kino received.
I used my sexual jokes too - vagina chin, period joke and "head" joke (coin toss). She was sharp-witted enough to get the last one. I even used a one-line NLP pattern.
On a couple of occasions she said about me, "If you were boring I'd have left already."
When her friend came back, my friend moved in and he started gaming her. Many times they were looking at us smiling, saying things like, "I think your friend likes my friend" (I was told later).
But this is where it all started to go wrong. Even though it was obvious she liked me, she was a self-confessed "good-girl" (Ifound this out very early). She said. "My friend goes to these places to pick up guys, but I'm not like that." I of course teased her about implying her friend was "that kind of girl" but I was smart enough to foresee what would happen.
I also found out very early in the convo that she was going to Canada in 4 weeks for 7 months. And like I said before, she was quite intelligent. She KNEW that my approach was a pickup attempt, even though I confused her by being so c+f and difficult to read. She knew by the kino and body language that I was looking for a kiss close.
Most girls would just ride with their emotions and go with it, but she was stoic about appearing a good girl (her friend is right there). The ASD was too high.
Sure enough, my friend started making out with the friend, and another couple was making out nearby. All of a sudden there is a new dynamic to our chat. The implication is that we should do the same, and she knew it enough to mention it.
HB: "I'm probably boring you. You've spent all this time trying to pick me up..."
Me: "Pick me up? Nah, I think you're trying to seduce me!"
Still...5 minutes later
HB: I'm boring you aren't I....
Me: It's 2:30am, there's nothing better to do *****y grin* . Buying me a drink would be nice
HB: OK let's go to the bar
Me: Hahah, I'm just being mean
HB: No I really want to buy you a drink
Once we're sitting back down she mentions AGAIN out of the blue the fact that she is leaving the country in only 4 weeks. (******** for "I can't allow myself to get attached to anyone"). That as well as just recovering from a flu (She had a coughing fit later on the dancefloor).
HB: "Unless you want to catch the flu"
I didn't even ask for a kiss at that point she just said it.
If you read the HBAsian FR, you'd know I'm a bit gunshy about knowing when to go for the kiss. Sure, I could have just gone in at some point, but because it was hinted at so much it would have lacked all spontaniety.
We decided to go to the dance floor because she was cold. 5 minutes in she started coughing and left to regain composure, then she returned and stepped up on the podium with me. She was dancing really sexily, so I leaned toward her ear and said, "You're a much better dancer than a conversationalist." I got a girly hit for my efforts.
That does it I thought, she's just a confused little girl with an ASD but she really wants the c0ck! Pity though that it really was cold on the dancefloor, I felt it too and I didn't have exposed shoulders. I had planned to move in closer and go for it, but then she said she was too cold and wanted to go to the downstairs dancefloor (warmer down there)
Fvck! I knew this wasn't a snub but I didn't want to supplicate to her will again. My friend said that in my position he would have followed her but I thought that might be a bit AFC. Plus I was a little frustrated that it hadn't worked for me but my friend was scoring with the sluttier one (he said later she was easy and his game was poor).
I got off the podium and said, "I'm staying up here, but in case I don't see you again tonight, tell me your number." There was no resistance at all and we parted ways.
So there you have it. I spit some excellent game all over this chick and had her really liking me, but the ASD was too high. It's possible I was too confident and this made her more wary.
Combine her good girl image with limited time in the country, plus a recent illness made her tentative, and I wasn't about to turn all sleazy on her.
I should have realised sooner that not all girls like making out on the day they meet you, especially if they never go to clubs. Still it was very annoying upon leaving and my balls were complaining when I settled into bed, but I learnt a LOT!
I'm going to attempt a month-long fling, any opinions on how to go about this?
Thanks for reading, if you got down this far!
I learnt stacks and hopefully you will too.------
For those of you who have been following my progress, you'd know that I've been having some bad luck with my DJing recently.
Chick with BF that flirts like crazy, HotAsian9 who rejects after kiss attempt, immature kid-like girl who has fallen for me, etc etc.
Last night my mate and I (who's getting more and more DJ each time
) hit up our favourite club after a month hiatus.It was a bit of a sausage factory unfortunately, and as the hours wore on it seemed unlikely we'd pick up.
But then at 1:30am, a slice of luck! My friend suggested we take a seat, and right when I was heading over a cute-looking girl with a nice body directly in front of us sat down first.
So immediately I sat down next to her and accused her of stealing our seats in funny way. "We saw them first." She responded well. On asking why she was alone she said she was dancing with her friend but got too hot. Lucky my friend was waiting around to c0ckblock when she got back.
So, I start gaming her, and right from the start I could tell she had an infectious, fun, outgoing personality (possibly sunshine girl). Not the typical nightclub hoe I've cold approached in the past. It was her first time there. This is the type of girl I like because they respond well to C+F.
So I laid it on thick and fast! Everything I could have teased her about I said. She was incredibly easy to pick on, it made my job easy. (Eg living in parents living room, deferred Uni for no reason). And she LOVED it! Everytime time I busted on her she'd show her huge smile and give me that look. As the time went on she began to hit me, including on the legs.
HB: "You're so mean
"Me: "And you LOVE it don't you!"
OR
Me: "Why do like mean guys so much?"
I kinoed more than I'd ever kinoed before. Our arms were touching so it made it easier, but I would have touched her arms/shoulder 10+ times, smelled her hair (she said she hates it when it smells like smoke) and touched her leg roughly 5 times.
I used a constructive pause (from Senor Fingers thread), where I sat with a ****y smirk and made HER awkward, feeling a need to resume the convo.
My favourite technique was push/pull (also from Senor Fingers thread), I'd never properly tried this before so I was keen to give it a go. Let me tell you now that push/pull is SOLID GOLD! Every DJ should make it a part of his repertoire.
I must have done it about 5 times - whenever she said something I didn't agree with. For example, on remembering names because my friend called her the wrong name:
HB: I'm pretty bad at remembering names
Me: Yeah , I bet you don't even remember MY name Alice!"
HB: *embarrassed* Ummm...ahhh...starts with A...Aidan?
Me: *shift my sitting position and face away from her, crossing my arms*
HB *puts two hands on my shoulders to pull me back around while giggling* Noooo Sorry! I have a bad memory blah blah
Each time I did this it worked better than the last time, considerable kino received.
I used my sexual jokes too - vagina chin, period joke and "head" joke (coin toss). She was sharp-witted enough to get the last one. I even used a one-line NLP pattern.
On a couple of occasions she said about me, "If you were boring I'd have left already."
When her friend came back, my friend moved in and he started gaming her. Many times they were looking at us smiling, saying things like, "I think your friend likes my friend" (I was told later).
But this is where it all started to go wrong. Even though it was obvious she liked me, she was a self-confessed "good-girl" (Ifound this out very early). She said. "My friend goes to these places to pick up guys, but I'm not like that." I of course teased her about implying her friend was "that kind of girl" but I was smart enough to foresee what would happen.
I also found out very early in the convo that she was going to Canada in 4 weeks for 7 months. And like I said before, she was quite intelligent. She KNEW that my approach was a pickup attempt, even though I confused her by being so c+f and difficult to read. She knew by the kino and body language that I was looking for a kiss close.
Most girls would just ride with their emotions and go with it, but she was stoic about appearing a good girl (her friend is right there). The ASD was too high.
Sure enough, my friend started making out with the friend, and another couple was making out nearby. All of a sudden there is a new dynamic to our chat. The implication is that we should do the same, and she knew it enough to mention it.
HB: "I'm probably boring you. You've spent all this time trying to pick me up..."
Me: "Pick me up? Nah, I think you're trying to seduce me!"
Still...5 minutes later
HB: I'm boring you aren't I....
Me: It's 2:30am, there's nothing better to do *****y grin* . Buying me a drink would be nice
HB: OK let's go to the bar
Me: Hahah, I'm just being mean
HB: No I really want to buy you a drink
Once we're sitting back down she mentions AGAIN out of the blue the fact that she is leaving the country in only 4 weeks. (******** for "I can't allow myself to get attached to anyone"). That as well as just recovering from a flu (She had a coughing fit later on the dancefloor).
HB: "Unless you want to catch the flu"
I didn't even ask for a kiss at that point she just said it.
If you read the HBAsian FR, you'd know I'm a bit gunshy about knowing when to go for the kiss. Sure, I could have just gone in at some point, but because it was hinted at so much it would have lacked all spontaniety.
We decided to go to the dance floor because she was cold. 5 minutes in she started coughing and left to regain composure, then she returned and stepped up on the podium with me. She was dancing really sexily, so I leaned toward her ear and said, "You're a much better dancer than a conversationalist." I got a girly hit for my efforts.
That does it I thought, she's just a confused little girl with an ASD but she really wants the c0ck! Pity though that it really was cold on the dancefloor, I felt it too and I didn't have exposed shoulders. I had planned to move in closer and go for it, but then she said she was too cold and wanted to go to the downstairs dancefloor (warmer down there)
Fvck! I knew this wasn't a snub but I didn't want to supplicate to her will again. My friend said that in my position he would have followed her but I thought that might be a bit AFC. Plus I was a little frustrated that it hadn't worked for me but my friend was scoring with the sluttier one (he said later she was easy and his game was poor).
I got off the podium and said, "I'm staying up here, but in case I don't see you again tonight, tell me your number." There was no resistance at all and we parted ways.
So there you have it. I spit some excellent game all over this chick and had her really liking me, but the ASD was too high. It's possible I was too confident and this made her more wary.
Combine her good girl image with limited time in the country, plus a recent illness made her tentative, and I wasn't about to turn all sleazy on her.
I should have realised sooner that not all girls like making out on the day they meet you, especially if they never go to clubs. Still it was very annoying upon leaving and my balls were complaining when I settled into bed, but I learnt a LOT!
I'm going to attempt a month-long fling, any opinions on how to go about this?
Thanks for reading, if you got down this far!
