"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Feeling very AFCish, in a slump, want a GF. HELP.

Jaxon

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I've been out of my most recent and second LTR of my life for about a year and a half now, and I'm getting the urge again. The thing is I'm not meeting any new girls, like, at all.

I'm super busy working full time, going to school full time, working out 5 days a week, snowboarding and hanging w/friends and fam when I can find the time.

I'm in a good place physically, mentally, emotionally--I'm good looking, funny, driven, but for some godforf*ckingsaken reason there's no new chicks in my life. Why? What the hell else do I have to do to attract new females?

To be honest I've never really had to approach to meet girls my whole life. I either became friends with them somehow and then we went out, or they were a friend of a friend, or they expressed their interest in me first--but now all that has stopped and I have no idea why.

What should I do? It's one thing to be a pube-stache dungeons and dragons playing, hygiene-challenged nerd, it's another thing to be successful, good-looking and funny but still get no chicks. I'm slumpin' big time, help me please....
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Jaxon said:
To be honest I've never really had to approach to meet girls my whole life. I either became friends with them somehow and then we went out, or they were a friend of a friend, or they expressed their interest in me first--but now all that has stopped and I have no idea why.
I used to operate this way, but reality is you are waiting for very random opportunities to happen. Sometimes alot of women will appear in your life without you doing anything. Other times you have to make it happen.

Girls are every where. You cannot believe that there are no new girls around. They just may not be arriving in the way you are used to that's all. It's Easy.
 

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Dongfu said:
I used to operate this way, but reality is you are waiting for very random opportunities to happen. Sometimes alot of women will appear in your life without you doing anything. Other times you have to make it happen.

Girls are every where. You cannot believe that there are no new girls around. They just may not be arriving in the way you are used to that's all. It's Easy.
Yeah you hit it on the head with waiting for random opportunities to happen. That's the thing though, I'm so used to it being dropped in my lap that now that it's mysteriously stopped, I don't know what to do.

Actually, I know what to do (approach), I just don't want to do it. Of course there's the anxiety aspect, but to be honest I almost feel like I'm too good for it. I know that's not a good attitude to have, but when you've never really had to work for it maybe you get spoiled in a sense and just expect it to happen for you.

I still can't figure out why I'm in a better place than I've been in for a while, yet nothing is happening, even by chance.
 

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Aren't there hot chicks around the skiing areas where you snowboard? Find a girl who thinks snowboarding is cool.

Also, you should never really want a gf. They just happen. Wanting sex is ok, but wanting commitment is usually bad. It gives off a neediness vibe that repels women.
 
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