feeling out of place if alone.

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i am feeling out of place when im alone.. everyone in the mall is with somebody like friends or couples being together and family.

i am just roaming around looking for girls to get #'s with.. but i feel i cant because im alone and i feel insecure maybe.. a lil less confidence that i usually have.

anyway, any of u guys feel this way? if so can you give advice? it's sunday night and im home alone.

i have a car with full tank, i could go to a bar or a club or a mall... anywhere.. i need suggestions. last night i was with 5 girls, but i really didnt enjoy their company.. looking for nicer chicks that make more sense. :shrugs:

so anyway, i can go anywhere i want now, but i really feel out of place when i go out alone. can anyone advice on this?

 

[SirJLove]

Not to be a **** but...read a book. Sometimes the best place to start with is yourself. Becoming a "don juan" as these cats will call it, focuses more on long-term solutions and less on quick fixes. You could press a button and get laid every night, but you won't become a don juan that way. Start with yourself. Plus, if you're going to the mall...well ****, I'd usually go with someone else if I was trying to meet chicks, but it would be a good "balls-enlarging" exercise to just talk to every fine girl you see. But I guarantee if you read a lot you'd have more to talk about.

 

[Caveman]

What I used to do in the very beginning when I went out alone, was to pretend I was waiting for someone and having a little bit of fun while waiting. Or I would pretend I was there with someone but we split up to do some things by ourselves for a sec.

I don't know if this would help you but it helped me get started. Now I don't give a rats ass if I have to go somewhere alone. I am having fun either way.

 

[MarcP]

Theres probably only one way around this problem and I know it's not the solution you want but you'll just have to go out alone and force yourself to approach. At the start just talk to everyone. Guys, girls, people who work at the mall, absolutely everyone even if you just say "hi" you've got more balls than most guys have, then you can start holding longer conversations and only talk to people you want to talk to as your confidence grows. I understand that it's hard to do but if you can't do this then it's going to be hard to ever approach the really good looking girls.

A good read by photo 1 is:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=20096

 

[Omega]

You have to learn to become "one" with yourself. Until you can be buddies with yourself, you will never fully enjoy the company of others. This means being able to go to the moveis, shopping, clubs, anywhere you'd go with other people, alone. It's all a matter of experience. Anything seems unnatural the first time but after a while becomes normal.

 

[Dee-Zy]

I used the 3 sec rule (ya!) and she was more welcoming to my fluff talk then I expected. This just shows how some girls are more open to you trying to approach them then you would think...you just have to act. – Sushi

What does it matter if you feel out of place? As soon as you are talking to a girl or girls you are not alone anymore. Right?

So stop focusing on what other thinks about you, and start focusing on what YOU want.

 

[squirrels]

Become complete. Then seek others.

No one wants the responsibility of having to socially validate you.

 

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You guys are great. Deezy and squirels do u guys have YM or MSN?

 

[Lost In Translation]

Maybe you should get a Wingman.

you got any friends who are into picking up chicks the same way you do ?

take one of your friends out that wants to have a go even if he isn't used to it you could show him how to be a dj

Lost In Translation

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