Feeling guilty (my gf and other girls)

[Who Dares Win]

I find myself in a complicate position which in fact it totally new in my life.

As I wrote few days ago Im in a long term relationship with a wonderful girl of which I cannot complain anything about, she doesnt stress or sh1t tests me and when she does its at minimal level, she is pretty,feminine and nurturing toward me and at the same time is very sensitive to us and often does things she doesnt like just to make me happy, really I can complain about her.

The only problem is that right now she leaves a little bit far from my city and we manage to meet once every 2-3 weeks, sex is great togheter (more for her giving attitude than her technique since she is 18 from a conservative family and Im her first guy) but Im a young man and in my life Im having really many temptations.

Im very active in the night life and I have lot of girls around me which often make it obvious that I could have them, others really hot are not that easy but are at my range with some work.... I have libido physically speaking and at the same time the instict to possess them to which I have to ass despite Im shy to say, some ego feeding desire since In my early life I was not exactly the guy which gets the girls, it all changed in the last years.

Now I realize that even kissing other girls is wrong but at the same time I have to fight against my deepest animal and manly desires, you see if my gf was a cvnt that would be not only easy but also pleasable...but in this case its not.

Anyone can relate with this situation or help me to deal with it somehow?

 

[The Simple Man]

Keep fvcking until she turns into a cvnt then dump her.

If she doesn't, then just fvck until you are bored with it.

 

[NewJack]

Anyone can relate with this situation or help me to deal with it somehow?

Depends what lessons you want to learn. Generally we don't have a say in what lessons we learn, so you will already be tending in a direction and this is more about trying to consciously acknowledge/accept/reject a thing that is already happening.

It seems to relate to sexual curiosity and a relationship.

Cheating on your girlfriend is a really interesting proposition. I say interesting with all the different shades of meaning that that word can have. You can explore some interesting lessons.

When we shut something down out-of-hand, thats moralizing. If I say its wrong to cheat, that's moralizing. A guy might want to learn what its like to walk that tightrope. Its dangerous, but probably also thrilling, etc. Sometimes a role of the dice is what's called for.

If sexual curiosity calls to you strongly, you will end up answering that call. What comes later is anyone's guess. Its your freedom to explore it however you see fit, knowing that the consequences will be whatever they will be.

Exploring sexual curiosity is not only fun and exciting, but if it is repressed and denied because its judged "Wrong", that is a short-cut method which actually doesn't resolve it, and it remains. All aspects of the Self have to be explored and integrated before we can become whole. That means not despising one's "demons", including sexual curiosity.

edit: obviously, the potential for these acts to have negative repercussions on your relationship is quite large, and, I'm assuming, its a consciously assumed risk.

 

[The Simple Man]

Depends what lessons you want to learn. Generally we don't have a say in what lessons we learn, so you will already be tending in a direction and this is more about trying to consciously acknowledge/accept/reject a thing that is already happening.

It seems to relate to sexual curiosity and a relationship.

Cheating on your girlfriend is a really interesting proposition. I say interesting with all the different shades of meaning that that word can have. You can explore some interesting lessons.

When we shut something down out-of-hand, thats moralizing. If I say its wrong to cheat, that's moralizing. A guy might want to learn what its like to walk that tightrope. Its dangerous, but probably also thrilling, etc. Sometimes a role of the dice is what's called for.

If sexual curiosity calls to you strongly, you will end up answering that call. What comes later is anyone's guess. Its your freedom to explore it however you see fit, knowing that the consequences will be whatever they will be.

Exploring sexual curiosity is not only fun and exciting, but if it is repressed and denied because its judged "Wrong", that is a short-cut method which actually doesn't resolve it, and it remains. All aspects of the Self have to be explored and integrated before we can become whole. That means not despising one's "demons", including sexual curiosity.

edit: obviously, the potential for these acts to have negative repercussions on your relationship is quite large, and, I'm assuming, its a consciously assumed risk.

I suggest you to use bland English to express your opinion.

Not to offense your spiritual dialect, but it sounds spooky and pretentious.

You can ask Mr.Switch in Health and Fitness forum who managed to write his instruction in kindergarten style so special ed kid like me can understand.

 

[happyDJ]

OP, if you're trying to become a man and not a boy, cheating a dedicated, quality girl with whom you've agreed to an exclusive relationship, is wrong.
It's one thing to sleep with several women at the same time, when you haven't committed exclusively to any of them.
This is a person, she has feelings and trusts you. Would you lie like this behind one of your best friends' back?

You have sort of oneitis. Because if you hadn't, you'd just drop the girl, or drop the exclusivity agreement, and follow your desires and passions, without betraying your close ones. Become a better DJ.

Yes, you'll feel like crap after breaking up with her, and you'll miss her. That's life. Don't be a slvt, don't be a child.

 

[Rave18]

Also read : What Plate Theory is not > http://therationalmale.com/2011/08/19/plate-theory-2/