FBuddy w/ a Narcisist

[RussDobs87]

So I've come to the conclusion one of my plates has NPD.

Pretty much every trait she shows is NPD. Talking about herself, asking for the same compliments and affirmation on a daily basis, and showing little to no feelings for others. Everytime she says 'I Love you' I can tell it's hollow and she almost demands for me to say it back.

From my standpoint, I don't have feelings for her. I simply keep her at bay by acting as I do (narcisists usually won't keep seeing someone unless you a) completely ignore them or b) play their game and praise them even when it's not deserved). I've been using a mixture of the both to pretty good effect.

I've got 3-4 other women I'm seeing, and I'm pretty sure she's got at least one other guy she's seeing.

I do want to keep her as a plate because the sex is amazing, and we actually do get along pretty well (I'm a bit narcisistic too, but not lacking empathy).

Is there any downside to having this chick as an fbuddy as long as I can keep my feelings at bay? I make it a point to only see her once a week and see my other plates as well. She's under the impression we are in a relationship, but I know better. I see her like she sees me; just an object to use for sex/good times (although she probably sees me as an object for sex and to make her feel better).

When we first met, we tried the relationship thing to no avail. She got bored after hanging out 3-4 days a week and started asking for her space.

Since I've learned my lesson and have put her in my fbuddy plate dept.

Any of you have any success with doing something similar?

 

[Sik]

RussDobs87,

It seems like you have it all under control.

Downsides? Pregnancy and STD's are really about it. I've used pretty much every method of birth control, and even overlap them. I don't like condoms, unless I really don't trust the broad, so I've had a lot of experience with BC.

I've tried the sponge. Not a fan. The girl wasn't familiar with it, so I had to stick it in her for her. Quite the bonding experience, haha. You can feel it when you're really going deep. Not an unpleasant sensation, just different.

I've also used these strips, like tongue mint strips, that dissolve in the vag into a spermicide. I'm not a fan. You have to stick it in as far as you can, but then it starts to dissolve too fast and gets stuck you your finger. Then you're trying to get it unstuck with your other finger and then it gets stuck to both, all while you're knuckles-deep in whatever dumb broad you've found for the night.

I tried putting one on the tip of my sausage. It worked slightly better, but then I had half a strip of spermicide stuck to my dong. Then, during sex, I started getting concerned that not enough was reaching the cervix and it killed my mood. I abandoned that idea rather quickly.

Another BC method is this syringe that you fill up with a foam spermicide. Then, you take the syringe, more like a turkey baster, and bast that cervix with spermicide. I actually liked that one, but the one girl I tried it with said the chemicals made her vag sore. I'm sure giving her the pile driver didn't help, haha.

Now my current method is giving them the Plan B pill and also pulling out. It's the most expensive method as those pills aren't cheap, but it's very effective when coupled with coitus interruptus. I've pulled out so many times for so long, I can't even remember the last time I shot for the child-support lottery.

For STD's, I just give the vag a good once-over before I commence drilling operations. Now, if you're hitting low-level trash, or obvious bar flies, yeah, wear rubber.

I've had one, maybe two NPD girls, they never stuck around long. I just pounded them out and only texted them when I didn't have anything better to do. Of course, I never complimented them, either, and that probably drove them away. I rarely give compliments to a girl I've already slayed, and once I've done the deed 4 or 5 times, my interest level in them plummets dramatically.

Anyways, good luck man.

 

[Johnny Alias]

I don't know man. If you've got an ego like mine, the sex is fantastic, and she's stiff arming any attempts at a relationship... you might begin to fall for the "I love you's".

Look at my recent posts. Been dealing with that myself. NPD, HPD, whatever she's NOT going to be good for the long term. You know that, but between the impossible challenge to your pride of getting her to be a normal chick and the great sex that's a tough one to let go... at least in my experience. You can't fix her and as time goes on I think you'll develop feelings for her... probably already are since you're posting about her on here. Not posting about the plates are you?

Personally? I'd cut and run. I think I might do that whenever L-bombs come on the landscape from here on out from someone who's so self absorbed and literally asks you questions about your life because they feel obligated to. Narcissism 101. Emotionally unavailable women who are unempathetic are just sex dolls as far as I'm concerned.... hollow shells. They love the drama of it in that moment, but looking beyond that is disaster and something they are unable to do. That's why they are able to cheat without remorse. It's all about that moment.

You've got other plates... drop her and watch the intensity kick up but kick her to the curb regardless. You know she's not a long term proposition so why waste any more time?

I say this to myself as much as to you btw. Good luck.