What options does a boy have when there is no father? Find a role model? What if he is turns down everyone who offers to be a figure? As if they aren't good enough. Now he comes across as an ******* to everyone. What if he won't speak to his actual father because he wasn't there to show him the way? His father wants to make things right when the son is 16-17 but the boy says **** that as if he can make his own man. Now the boy struggles to be a man but becomes a lost cause because he has 100 different personalities and can't put them together to make one man. Its one of those things that becomes labeled as depression. What woman wants him?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Fatherless boys
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
kraytkiller
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That pretty much describes me, and I assume, you, though my father has never bothered to try and reconnect with me, but I'm still young, so...
I never and still do not give a crap that I don't have a father growing up. But I guess not having a male rolemodel in my life has made me into something very different then what I would've become..
Don't know where I was going with that.
Anyways I have that 100 personality problem thing you described above. I feel like most days, I don't even know or understand myself. I want one thing but at the same time want something the exact opposite.... Like I'll want someone to care for me, while at the same time wishing I could just be alone. Heh. If that's what your talking about....
What does a kid, or a man, do in this situation? Well. Man up. You don't really need a father, in fact maybe it's better you don't have one, is the way I figure, as your more free to form your own opinions and behaviors...even if they're negative.
What girls would want you? Well that's a dumb question. I guess if you were a depressed wreck most chicks would be hesitant to get involved with you. But still, even then a few would. But if your talking about what chick would want a fatherless man, well, that's just stupid. To prove it I even have a girlfriend at this time...
I never and still do not give a crap that I don't have a father growing up. But I guess not having a male rolemodel in my life has made me into something very different then what I would've become..
Don't know where I was going with that.
Anyways I have that 100 personality problem thing you described above. I feel like most days, I don't even know or understand myself. I want one thing but at the same time want something the exact opposite.... Like I'll want someone to care for me, while at the same time wishing I could just be alone. Heh. If that's what your talking about....
What does a kid, or a man, do in this situation? Well. Man up. You don't really need a father, in fact maybe it's better you don't have one, is the way I figure, as your more free to form your own opinions and behaviors...even if they're negative.
What girls would want you? Well that's a dumb question. I guess if you were a depressed wreck most chicks would be hesitant to get involved with you. But still, even then a few would. But if your talking about what chick would want a fatherless man, well, that's just stupid. To prove it I even have a girlfriend at this time...
Lets do this, father means role model.
So, its best to not have a role model? Your not manning up if you are the fakest person in the world. Fake behavior is childish. I don't care for a father myself but I'm not sure if I'm supposed to have a role model. My concern is establishing one attitude, one personality, one man. If I'm supposed to do it on my on, something is telling me it won't happen.
So, its best to not have a role model? Your not manning up if you are the fakest person in the world. Fake behavior is childish. I don't care for a father myself but I'm not sure if I'm supposed to have a role model. My concern is establishing one attitude, one personality, one man. If I'm supposed to do it on my on, something is telling me it won't happen.
Scars
Master Don Juan
I grew up without a father sense I was six and it never stopped me from banging chicks. I think you all need to get over it and stop feeling sorry for yourselves. I like to think I'm doing just fine.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Killer_Demo
Don Juan
i dont have a dad...my role models have always been money getters
If I hadn't made me, I would've been made somehow
If I hadn't assembled myself, I'd have fallen apart by now
If I hadn't made me, I'd be more inclined to bow
Powers that be, would have swallowed me up
But that's more than I can allow
If you let them make you, they'll make you paper mache
At a distance you're strong, until the wind comes
Then you crumble and blow away
make yourself^ you'll be much stronger than if someone else made you
If I hadn't assembled myself, I'd have fallen apart by now
If I hadn't made me, I'd be more inclined to bow
Powers that be, would have swallowed me up
But that's more than I can allow
If you let them make you, they'll make you paper mache
At a distance you're strong, until the wind comes
Then you crumble and blow away
make yourself^ you'll be much stronger than if someone else made you
Dante420
Master Don Juan
You combine the best elements of all those personalities. The most successful elements of them all, throw away everything unsuccessful and you realize you are YOUR OWN MAN.
Take pride in that, you built yourself. Your a strong individual and you'll get through anything.
Take pride in that, you built yourself. Your a strong individual and you'll get through anything.