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Fatherless boys

Hennessy

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What options does a boy have when there is no father? Find a role model? What if he is turns down everyone who offers to be a figure? As if they aren't good enough. Now he comes across as an ******* to everyone. What if he won't speak to his actual father because he wasn't there to show him the way? His father wants to make things right when the son is 16-17 but the boy says **** that as if he can make his own man. Now the boy struggles to be a man but becomes a lost cause because he has 100 different personalities and can't put them together to make one man. Its one of those things that becomes labeled as depression. What woman wants him?
 

kraytkiller

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That pretty much describes me, and I assume, you, though my father has never bothered to try and reconnect with me, but I'm still young, so...

I never and still do not give a crap that I don't have a father growing up. But I guess not having a male rolemodel in my life has made me into something very different then what I would've become..

Don't know where I was going with that.

Anyways I have that 100 personality problem thing you described above. I feel like most days, I don't even know or understand myself. I want one thing but at the same time want something the exact opposite.... Like I'll want someone to care for me, while at the same time wishing I could just be alone. Heh. If that's what your talking about....

What does a kid, or a man, do in this situation? Well. Man up. You don't really need a father, in fact maybe it's better you don't have one, is the way I figure, as your more free to form your own opinions and behaviors...even if they're negative.

What girls would want you? Well that's a dumb question. I guess if you were a depressed wreck most chicks would be hesitant to get involved with you. But still, even then a few would. But if your talking about what chick would want a fatherless man, well, that's just stupid. To prove it I even have a girlfriend at this time...
 

Hennessy

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Lets do this, father means role model.

So, its best to not have a role model? Your not manning up if you are the fakest person in the world. Fake behavior is childish. I don't care for a father myself but I'm not sure if I'm supposed to have a role model. My concern is establishing one attitude, one personality, one man. If I'm supposed to do it on my on, something is telling me it won't happen.
 

Scars

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I grew up without a father sense I was six and it never stopped me from banging chicks. I think you all need to get over it and stop feeling sorry for yourselves. I like to think I'm doing just fine.
 

Hennessy

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One night stands are standard practice for me. I'm trying to create myself, not bang chicks.
 

randalll

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If I hadn't made me, I would've been made somehow
If I hadn't assembled myself, I'd have fallen apart by now
If I hadn't made me, I'd be more inclined to bow
Powers that be, would have swallowed me up
But that's more than I can allow

If you let them make you, they'll make you paper mache
At a distance you're strong, until the wind comes
Then you crumble and blow away


make yourself^ you'll be much stronger than if someone else made you
 

Dante420

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You combine the best elements of all those personalities. The most successful elements of them all, throw away everything unsuccessful and you realize you are YOUR OWN MAN.

Take pride in that, you built yourself. Your a strong individual and you'll get through anything.
 
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