Fantasy and standards.

[satelliteparties]

In person, I rarely see women that attract me or "my type" where I'd want to date them/do them...yet in tv and movies, I see tons of women I'd do anything to date/do.

This isn't even necessarily a matter of unrealistic standards...the women I notice in tv/movies, while beautiful, aren't models or 10s. I also don't look at porn or anything (unless you include this site celebritymoviearchive that has just about every nude scene from a movie ever)...so it's not like I'm looking at unrealistic looking women.

What happens though is, I'm so used to getting myself off...and also just knowing what turns me on in particular, what type of women etc...that in real life, if a woman doesn't have one of those physical characteristics, I'm not interested.

I dated a girl that would rank an 8 to most on this site a couple years ago, and never fantasized about her once. In fact was on dating sites looking for another better woman. When we fooled around (we broke up before it got to the vaginal sex part) I found it overrated and disappointing.

As for what I like...I tend to like natural girl next door type beauty...women that are naturally 6/7/8s, better than most, but aren't going to turn your horny uncle's head. I also like hourglass figures...hate skinny chicks/no curves etc...but it seems where I am either the girl is skinny/no tits/ass...or she's overweight.

I've been on some dates recently on dating sites and was completely bored by the women, not because of their personalities, but because there was no sexual attraction.

I'm wondering if this is a common problem?

 

[Credos]

I can relate, I have the same problem. I guess guys like us need to be more swept of our feet.(seems that goes both ways then)

I don't fall for girls who I can sleep with on the first date, I fall for girls who are hard to get yet put in effort to make me feel good aswell. And those kind of girls are just rare, but the good part is, I know what I'm looking for .

(Don't get me wrong I hate waiting too long and women who play games, but I normally see through it cause I've seen it enough times to know when they are sincere and when not.)

 

[satelliteparties]

It's a catch-22. I'm really, really sick of being a virgin (especially since I've done everything foreplay has to offer including bjs) but I won't date or sleep with anyone that doesn't "wow" me. (And it's not like lesser women are offering themselves to me anyway, so since I'm doing the approaching, I can afford to choose who I want to approach.)

I've considered just finding an escort that's my type...but for a few hundred dollars plus at least another hundred for a hotel...I could just go on a weekend getaway, have some women from pof lined up and hope one doesn't flake.

So I'm at a loss of what to do and how to find and attract a woman my type. When a small percentage of women (at least in real life, not on tv or in media) are your type, your odds of succeeding and you being her type aren't that good.

 

[Ease]

When your a virgin at 25, the last thing you should be doing is looking for women that are 'your type'

 

[satelliteparties]

I'm not looking to be a pimp...just have a 1 count with someone I'm attracted to. (and i'm not attracted to club/model types anyway so it's not like i'm after so called "10s")