I'm a dating kind of guy. I'm a coffee-date, then lets-go-do-something-date guy. Usually by the second date I know if it's worth my time.
Twice in the past three weeks I've had a ONS. Yay team. I have a few every year. No big deal, that. What's worth mentioning is the way it happened. The first girl was a girl who looked so much like a girl I knew in school that from across the bar, I thought it was her. But, being no idiot, I didn't call her by name. I just went across the room to her, said, "Hey!" like I knew her (nothing phony -- I thought we'd made the beast with two backs before), pulled up a chair backwards, straddled it, and set my drink on her table.
Five seconds later I realized it wasn't her.
I didn't tell her my mistake; she was totally open to me sitting there. As I couldn't get over how much she acted like a girl I'd had incredible sex with, I found myself quickly acting familiar with her -- laughing, clapping her lightly on the back, touching her arm. Natural. We talked, we laughed, we danced. I rubbed her neck. We left in my car.
Fast-forward three weeks. I'm at another club, a girl says "hi," and, thinking I knew her from somewhere, I faked a, "Hey! How've you been?" (I do a lot of networking in my job; I'm a master of the introductory pump-fake.) She started telling me *exactly* how she's been. She sets her drink down and finally says, "Do I know you?"
"You do now," I said. Again, we were past the awkwardness part, straight into intimacy.
I don't recommend that you fake that you know a girl, but it's just interesting to me -- these were two of the easiest pickups I've had in years, and they both hinged on familiarity.
Thoughts?
Twice in the past three weeks I've had a ONS. Yay team. I have a few every year. No big deal, that. What's worth mentioning is the way it happened. The first girl was a girl who looked so much like a girl I knew in school that from across the bar, I thought it was her. But, being no idiot, I didn't call her by name. I just went across the room to her, said, "Hey!" like I knew her (nothing phony -- I thought we'd made the beast with two backs before), pulled up a chair backwards, straddled it, and set my drink on her table.
Five seconds later I realized it wasn't her.
I didn't tell her my mistake; she was totally open to me sitting there. As I couldn't get over how much she acted like a girl I'd had incredible sex with, I found myself quickly acting familiar with her -- laughing, clapping her lightly on the back, touching her arm. Natural. We talked, we laughed, we danced. I rubbed her neck. We left in my car.
Fast-forward three weeks. I'm at another club, a girl says "hi," and, thinking I knew her from somewhere, I faked a, "Hey! How've you been?" (I do a lot of networking in my job; I'm a master of the introductory pump-fake.) She started telling me *exactly* how she's been. She sets her drink down and finally says, "Do I know you?"
"You do now," I said. Again, we were past the awkwardness part, straight into intimacy.
I don't recommend that you fake that you know a girl, but it's just interesting to me -- these were two of the easiest pickups I've had in years, and they both hinged on familiarity.
Thoughts?