Familiarity Game

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I wanted to provide an update to a thread I made maybe a year ago.

The thread was about me sitting in the side of a Walmart parking lot which was near several apartment buildings, this side area was a tarmac for all the residents to walk to Walmart, to and from, I would sit on the hood of my vehicle for an hour at the same time, same day, once a week.

I make a point while doing this to speak to everybody I can, not just women. Sometimes I play loud music, I might smoke a joint, might have a buddy with me, reading, who knows what I'll be doing but I'll be doing it there, right on time, every time.

Ive still been doing this, except now I've intensified my game by not accepting numbers any more, if she wants to get a hold of me, I simply tell her I'll be here same time next week.

Ive made so many connections doing this, made new friends, I had so many people coming down at one point an ice cream truck would set up at the edge of the lot so all the people from the main parking lot and this side one could see, I'd get ice cream, maybe buy somebodies kid one.

Doing this for almost 2 years now, it's made me realize we focus far too much on closing to the point where the interaction becomes inauthentic, I've seen women come and go, had women clearly fighting over me, had some women consistently come around who were clearly not interested, it's all good.

I don't make myself super available, an hour a week is all I need, you start to see the same faces every week and the women that want to be noticed and approached, they'll make that known once they realize I'm there at the same time.

The only thing I do is make a point to move my vehicle if I end up banging, I don't want to make it super obvious I'm there for the night or else I feel it'll hurt my authenticity, so typically it's back to my place or I'll just drive her into their parking lot or offer a ride somewhere first then go into the parking lot.

You don't need to mad dog every woman you see, all you need to do is be around, I liken this strategy to being the last guy awake at the party, you'll make no moves but still get some at the end of the night simply because your there. Just don't be creepy, own what your doing.

People will ask me, "I always see you here, what are you doing?" I just reply that I'm Chilling out, I don't get defensive, some people don't get it but others get curious and it's that curiosity that provides an opening for me.

I continued this even when I had a girlfriend and that was good as well, it made me feel wanted, allowed me to keep my abundance mindset and not get complacent or clingy when she's trying to pull you off your purpose, it's just me time.

 

[Ricky]

This is really interesting. There is indeed a familiarity affect where women find a guy they see often more attractive. I think its a known thing in apartment complexes for instance.

i am sure it is in part due to a man becoming less of a threat

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi CapslockBandit,
There is overwhelming pressure on all of us to conform....This is an atavistic urge,a survival mechanism from long ago that enabled a herd to survive and prosper where loners would go under...The Mavericks like you were driven out,the tiny proportion of similarly inclined Females,who wanted to be loners were when Old with no svexual vale rooted out from time to time and burned as Witches...In modern Society,to you,"The Bandit",this is a carousel,a cornucopia of willing partners...When "La Ronde" loses its attraction for Heavens Sake don't tie yourself up to one of them....Be prepared for a Backlash,for if your success is noted by Societies Vigilantes then you may well be harrassed!