failed number close worth trying again?

[pete101]

is is it possible to salvage a failed number close another day if the chick is at same college as you and you're bound to bump into her again?

 

[pete101]

i approached this HB at my college when she was smoking by herself and got into convo, she was telling me how she didn't like it how guys would come up to her and try asking for the number 1st meeting etc..

this was awkward cos this is exactly what i was tryna do, i chatted a bit then said we should go for a drink sometime.. shes shaking her head in a no manner and said 'no i dont want to..' but being playful.. then i talk a bit more then suggest going for coffee instead and she still was no but smiling.. i asked if she had a bf, she said no.. but wouldn't really give me an answer nor did i want to ask why much. i think i may have asked once.

so i thought ok.. maybe shes trying to not look like a slvt so talk to her a bit more and see if u can get around this cos she prob didnt want to give up her number to some guy she just met..

i forgot to use my material and may have been LJBF or LJBF myself cos i lost sight of what i was tryna do.. i forgot to neg as much as i should and be playful.. i only realised after that she was looking at me to decide whether i was a friend or a lover in those 20mins after of talking.

i left things with telling her i had to leave, i had social proof cos 1/2way through my friend came by who i was meeting thats why i had to go so i kissed her cheek and said goodbye.. i really shoulda tried for the numnber again but i didnt do anything to raise interest level or i didn't do things i do normally to raise interest.

is this salvagable?

i dont know how to play it cos i tried to establish myself as a prize but failed a bit and didn't really do anything to increase her IL in regards to material i use such as negs.

it felt almost as if i've left it as we're just friends.. im planning to act quite confident and have a swagger when i see her again. im not flustered or embarassed at all even if she told all her friends.

im worried about being or acting overkeen would it be better i dont chase her now but whenever i see her just say hi but act less intested or ignore her?

i read something in the dj bible that show you're the prize then let her come to you.. does that only apply if u dont try to number close the 1st time?

 

[russell]

**** yeah it's okay, but don't get desperate. maybe you should try to not worry about the phone number and try building rapport instead. take your time, what's the rush?

 

[pete101]

but shouldnt i ignore her a bit?

im never sure how to play these things.. are u suppose to just say hi but carry on walking dont stop to chat?

i assume she expects you'll try to chat.

 

[nicelife]

u could try going to talk to her again a few days later, then at the end be like "so this was the 2nd meeting" pull out your phone "whats your number?" with a smile on ur dial

 

[edger]

Yeah, I wouldn't push it any more. Leave it be. She doesn't seem interested, and it seems like she was "smiling" and being "playful" when she was telling you "no", because she was trying to let you off easy and not come across as a b*tch. If she's interested, she'll come to you or give you signs of interest.

I could also be wrong, but this is what I'd lean towards.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

Or you could have left and come back a few seconds later and remarked on how that was your 2nd time meeting and go for a number close (assuming you generated enough interest the first time). Could be a fun response.

 

[pete101]

i was kicking myself afterwards cos i realised what she was doing.. she didn't want to appear as a slvt giving her number out too quickly nor agreeing to a date so soon, she wanted to talk to me for a bit to decide if i was a friend or a lover and put me in either bracket.

i was semi aware of this at the time but didnt think of it on the spot negging her etc etc.. i did ok in retrospect but i could have done so much better rather than trying it twice in succession then not attempting to number close again after talking for 20mins.. i just thought.. well i know i'll see her again so try next time since i already tried twice.

should i just be cool walk with a swagger smiling saying hi but not engaging her in convo to show her she's missing out on something?