facebook dating

[drift king]

hey how many of you guys have had any success hooking up with girls off of facebook or any weird stories to tell?

i had this date with this woman the other night who was at least 7-8 years older than me i reckon.. i didn't ask i didn't care so i presumed she would have known how young i was from my photo. she said i looked 32 whereas people have said i only look 21 in my pic which is quite surprising. and in person she thought i was only 21 when i'm 6 years older than that.

she said it doesn't make much difference the differential between 21 and 27 cos too young is too young. then she goes on to say that it isn't the age factor is a problem it's just the 'feeling' she got that it wasn't going to work.

this b*tch was really rude we'd barely been in the bar for 10 mins and she announces she's not sticking around and leaving. on the way to the bar which was about 10mins away i suggested we get in my car to drive there but then she says no that's not a good idea.

then in the bar she refused to go downstairs cos there was noone else around and tried to interrogate me later as to why i asked her to go downstairs. she seemed excessively high maintenance which was p*ssing me off but i thought i'd give her the benefit of the doubt since she was meeting a total stranger.

when she announced that she wasn't sticking around much longer i already knew cos she zipped up her top to prevent showing off her figure and chose to sit away from me.. i made the vital error of trying to reason with her when she annouced to leave.

what i was wondering was what would you suggest to respond to a HB when she's made her mind up she's leaving? i presume just agreeing would be fine rather than my mistake of tryna figure out why she isn't giving us much of a chance.

she says it's not age difference it's just the feeling and refused to even let me walk her out and she was going to leave me stranded in the bar by myself.. what a b*tch..

i could understand her apprehensions.. i.e. it's dark, the bar wasn't near somewhere out in the open or near transport links but she associated these scared feelings with me as a person and she was trying to protect herself which i found insulting but understood.. the refusing to go downstairs in the bar just baffled me.

when i tried to reason with her outside while she was waiting for a cab she just said something about i was making things more difficult.. i really just wanted a straight honest truth answer and not some bullsh*t i have to figure out every time. then i just stormed off without saying goodbye.

i get an sms from her about 20mins later saying how i shouldn't get offended and it's just internet dating issues. what a load a crap.. she just sent that cos she was feeling guilty for how she treated me.

obviously there's no way anything will come of this but i should have at least retained my pride somehow when she announced this wasn't working and abruptly left. should i have just said something like:

'yeah you're right i don't think we'd get on anyway, i wouldn't want to go out with someone who makes split judgement decisions without having the courtesy to actually get to know someone properly. i guess that shows what kind of person you are.'

i really want to respond her sms cos i'm p1ssed off.

 

[duke007]

did you build a lot of rapport talking on Facebook?
If not that would have been a better idea, at least to see if she was f*cked in the head or not...

But overall, don't stress. That b1tch sounds crazy. And you did well to walk away in the end. DO NOT reply....I know the last word is tempting....but utterly pointless

 

[Mad Manic]

One wrong move and your toast. She can send a message out telling people you're a creep and it can impact your life on and outside facebook.

MM

 

[drift king]

that is true but we are in such different circles and she and i are complete strangers and not even in the same age range that i doubt she'll be able to impact me anyway.. i mean she'd have to know which girls i been facebooking for her to do something like that.

i'm pretty hacked off to be honest.. i couldn't bite my tongue any longer so i sent something along the lines of what i quoted in my last msg. i really should have said that in person rather than being polite about it.

rapport was built up very well beforehand she seemed properly into me.. but what can you judge from a few msgs here and there.. i think it's the whole in person you don't live up to how you are in writing etc.. or i dont look as good as my photo.. haha.. that's giving me a complex now just thinking that.

i even asked her if she had a bad experience internet dating before and she said no.. cos i was pretty miffed as to why she reacted in the way that she did. i just accept she wasn't on me in person as she was on my photo and my writing.. haha. win some lose some i guess. it is pretty disgraceful she announced she was leaving and that i couldn't even walk her outside to get a cab.. leaving me there in public embarassed.. thank god i insisted and left so no1 else knew.