"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Eye Contact From Chicks

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MisterMcGee

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You shouldn't need the confidence boost of people "checking you out". This will lead you to fall into the pit of low-self-esteem that almost every woman has. They DEPEND on guys checking them out, because their self esteem is so low.
You need to be happy with many aspects of yourself in order to be truly confident.
I can say that I still enjoy being checked out cause it makes my confidence go up and I feel better about my appearance, but I know I can't depend 100% on eye contact to keep my self esteem up.
Be a rock. Don't allow the attention from others to control your confidence.
 

spinaroonie

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Do you live in Toronto? Could be a regional thing.

ie. A buddy of mine from Singapore commented that Toronto girls seldom check out/make eye contact. It wasn't something I noticed till I traveled to Asia and Australia and returned to Toronto.

Eye contact from strangers passing by - I noticed a lot more of it happening in Singapore. I was getting eyed by the local Chinese girls much more so than over here. Maybe I stack up well against the local dudes - there aren't many whites guys or black guys to compete with. One pretty office-worker type even smiled at me from a bus stand as I jaywalked and boarded a cab. Never happens in Toronto.

In Sydney, walk into a shop, and you're more than likely to be greeted with a loud, cheery "How you going, mate?" Also, say "thank you", and they they won't say "you're welcome"; instead, they'll say "no worries". That epitomizes the difference between polite, reserved nature of Canadians and the open, friendly character of Australians.

A blogger from DC commented on the same phenomenon -
"If you go there to pick up women, don’t expect any fools’ mates. Chicks simply do not check out guys. Stone-faced and looking straight ahead is the order of the day. They are as chilly as the climate. I was told Toronto men never approach women and most have zero game, so how anybody hooks up is a mystery. Intimate social circles where men and women just sorta kinda fall into each others’ genitalia must be the default mating method.

Many top PUAs hail from Toronto. A disproportionate number, really. I wondered why this was so. I now have a theory based on the people there. When girls give you NO approach invitations at all, you have to assume all of them love you, and go in strong. Waiting around forever for eye contact is a fruitless endeavor."

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2008/11/11/toronto-a-photo-essay/

So relax bro, it's not you - it could be the women.





Is this something that those of you that have travelled overseas have noticed as well?
 

schttrj

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cola is just ****ing the **** outta you...
listen girls are attracted to value not style...
you would see some cool boy rapper not gettin any chicks but a person in suits getting girls look at him. why? because he shows value through his appearance, looks and vibe.

remember these three things:

appearance - how you groom yourself
looks - your inborn looks or may be the attire
attitude - how you carry yourself through the world

vibe = appearance + looks + attitude
 

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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