Explanation needed of behavorial by ex

[SayWhat]

Hi

Long story short, I've been broking up with this girl for over 5 years but we have the same friends so still see each other from time to time.

We (mostly me as she did some effort) have been ignoring each other (as in not not speaking to each other, not acknowledging each others presence,...) for over 2 years now. Today I found out things had been planned behind my back, i.e. a dinner and some activity afterwards (I give her the opportunity of the doubt as it has been planned by someone else but this would lead me to far). Now I don't know what to think of it, am I still running through her mind and is she just ignoring me to get some attention?

I must admit, I just send an email to my friends to ask for something to do in a few weeks and I was doubting to include her to the people who I wanted to send it to. In the end I did it, just because I wanted to be the better man (although this sounds contradictory because I was doubting it).

I just want an explanation of why she did it. And yes it's really AFC because I still care after 5 years, but I want to know. I don't want to lose opportunities with my real friends because I'm ignoring her and she's planning other stuff with them... Before she would include me, but as I said, the last few years I'm just trying to ban her out of my life, but if it leads to this consequences...

Thanks

 

[sph21]

If you really want to know how she feels about you, why don't you ask her yourself? That way, if she rejects you, you will learn faster to forget about her.

 

[SayWhat]

I'm too stubborn to do it. I think if I would ask she would think I'm still not over her and it would make her feel good and I don't want to give her that pleasure.

 

[BraddH]

I'm too stubborn to do it. I think if I would ask she would think I'm still not over her and it would make her feel good and I don't want to give her that pleasure.

Now why do you care? You care because if you give her that pleasure, she will get over you easier. In the end, you care so much to pretend not to care.

You should just get over yourself. Also get some other girls.

 

[narcissist]

Epitome of afc

 

[SayWhat]

I know, but it's so hard. She hurted me so hard, and I don't know what to think of it (as afterwards we acted normal for a short period.).

I just want revenge, I want to hurt her as bad as she hurted me....

 

[Cremasta]

You're kidding right?

So you want to ignore each other... unless there's a party invitation going round?

If someone went out of their way to ignore me, I'd be deleting phone numbers, email addresses, addresses, the lot.

 

[SayWhat]

But whhat should I do then? I can't ban her out of my life as we have the same friends.

 

[Pardner]

No Explanations neeed

Don't chat or reconnect with an ex

There won't be any need for explanations that way.