Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Explain HB9's behavior please?

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Have known her for a while but there is nothing going on (kept her as part of my 'networking'). Met her for lunch as she has started working full time. Things started off great until we got to the cafe. I saw a hb7 working at the counter I knew so had some harmless flirting and chatting as she went past everytime.

HB9 didn't seem to mind yet from lunch then onwards her enthusiasm and bubbliness dropped greatly. When we normally kino alot, we didn't today. We even went to a different cafe because she said she had no money on her card (although we went to an atm for her to grab some cash). I mean she was still talking to me asking me all these questions but it seemed there was something on her mind.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i dont know much but...

people/girls respond to perceived competition differently
some will give up
some will lift and try harder

she was internally conflicted by that flirty interaction with the 7 obviously. she said she had no money on card (when she did) because she wanted you to validate her by spending money on her? you hurt her self esteem when you where flirting with the 7. some girls arent aware of where they are in terms of attraction, perhaps she doesnt know she is far more attractive than the 7?
 
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GoodForm said:
Have known her for a while but there is nothing going on (kept her as part of my 'networking'). Met her for lunch as she has started working full time. Things started off great until we got to the cafe. I saw a hb7 working at the counter I knew so had some harmless flirting and chatting as she went past everytime.

HB9 didn't seem to mind yet from lunch then onwards her enthusiasm and bubbliness dropped greatly. When we normally kino alot, we didn't today. We even went to a different cafe because she said she had no money on her card (although we went to an atm for her to grab some cash). I mean she was still talking to me asking me all these questions but it seemed there was something on her mind.
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I can only think of two possibilities:

1. She's attracted to you and got really jealous, almost hurt that you were flirting with the other girl.

2. She's not attracted to you, but considers you an "orbiter" of sorts. It still hurts an HB to lose a PRIMARY orbiter. They don't want the orbiter to succeed with ANY female. He must just remain floating "in orbit" providing HER with lots of attention ONLY.
 
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