Exciting Opportunity...Double AND Blind Date

[jcb1772]

Ok straight to the point...an outgoing girl I recently became friends with goes to a different school. Today she told me she has a real good friend who's a "match" for me and asked if I could join her, her bf, and this so-called match of mine on a movie double-date type thing.

I told her I'll get back to her tomorrow. Keep in mind I have very little experience, I'm skinny, what most would consider the dreaded "nice guy". BUT, my friend told me this girl is small, sweet (the type I like) and is easy to please, generally going for the nicer guys herself. Plus she said this girl has only kissed once (nothing more) so really not that higher of a level than I am. I suppose my friend is setting us up for a reason.

I think I want to go, sounds like a fun opportunity. But has this kind of situation ever happened to you guys before? Assuming this girl is interested, is there a specific point in the "date" or movie I should start doing kino?

 

[immrtlwun]

You should definitely do it. Since the girl is shy, it should be pretty easy to take the lead.

Start kino from the beginning. Even something as simple as a hug when you first meet her can be considered kino. Do all kinds of subtle things the whole time, like putting your hand in the small of her back while leading her through a door. Accidentally touch the inside of her leg just above the knee when "reaching for your popcorn".

I would suggest you keep it under control and move a little slower though. If she's only kissed one guy in her life, she probably won't be ready to make out with you right away.

Good luck and post results.

 

[jcb1772]

Originally posted by immrtlwun
You should definitely do it. Since the girl is shy, it should be pretty easy to take the lead.

Start kino from the beginning. Even something as simple as a hug when you first meet her can be considered kino. Do all kinds of subtle things the whole time, like putting your hand in the small of her back while leading her through a door. Accidentally touch the inside of her leg just above the knee when "reaching for your popcorn".

I would suggest you keep it under control and move a little slower though. If she's only kissed one guy in her life, she probably won't be ready to make out with you right away.

Good luck and post results.

Thanks, yeah pretty much decided I am going to do it. It's just that I've never been on a date (let alone blind date) before so a little nervous about how to handle it and stuff. If you or anyone else have more suggestions/advice, it'd be massively appreciated. I'll probably have more questions to ask later when they come to me.

OH btw...I'm a sophomore, and this girl is a freshmen.

 

[immrtlwun]

You have to start somewhere. My first date was a set-up type date, we had both seen each other before, but never talked.

As far as the actual date, chek out dip's "guide to a succesful date" thread. It's just a few threads down.

Just relax, if the date goes bad, there are other fish in the sea and you don't have to see the girl again since she's at a different school.

 

[jcb1772]

Originally posted by immrtlwun
You have to start somewhere. My first date was a set-up type date, we had both seen each other before, but never talked.

As far as the actual date, chek out dip's "guide to a succesful date" thread. It's just a few threads down.

Just relax, if the date goes bad, there are other fish in the sea and you don't have to see the girl again since she's at a different school.

Thanks, and yeah just read that thread, very helpful.

I realize I need to have fun and not worry so much about how things are going. I'm probably jumping ahead and getting too excited, but say things ARE going well...would it be too soon/weird to start kissing (perhaps in the movies)? Again, probably fantasizing, but is that common on first dates with someone I've never known before?

 

[jcb1772]

Ok...update...

Turns out *I* will be the one to set the date lol. Talked to my friend...the one who's both of our friends and setting us up...and she said there's a change because she broke up with her bf. Yippy. So she gave me her AIM screenname (not the mystery girl though), I gave her mine. Apparently she will give this girl MY sn...so she will be the one to IM me later on.

My job for now is to wait for the girl to IM me...but when she does...I'm advised by the friend to chat with her a little, then set the date up for this weekend. It'll still be a double "date", the friend will come with us and bring a guy friend. She said the girl likes doing stuff, so I'm thinking bowling is the best bet, even though I'm not that great at it.

So I'm going to set it up online. Are there any rules for AIM chatting as opposed to phone or real life convos I should know? (aside from ending it quickly and at it's prime). Also, should I pay for the girl? Not sure whether paying would be a gentlemen or a suckup in this case.

 

[immrtlwun]

AIM convos- Watch your wording, she can't see your body language and facial expressions or hear your tone of voice. You might mean it to be a sort of playful joke, but she might see it as you being a jacka$$.

I personally think that paying is up to you, bowling isnt very expensive($10-$15). It's not like you're paying for some fancy dinner that costs you $50+. I would suggest a "deal" like you pay for the actual bowling and she pays for the food and stuff. But if you do split it somehow, remember, just because someone else is paying doesn't mean you should eat a ton of food.