"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ex girlfriend .. still gotta get rid of her

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Ok, so I made a mistake. I'll tell you that right now. I broke up with my girlfirend because I am going to college in September and I want to be single. That being 1 of 2 reasons. The other reason is a girl that I used to date came back into my life and I really want to be with her, as does she with me. We pretty much are goin out; without the title. Anyway, she has tried really hard to convince me that it will work out between us even with me away at school. Whereas the ex just said she trsuted my decision.

Anyways, to get to my point. My ex girlfriend still is obsessed with me and we kinda kept foolin around even after we broke up. I knew that it was gonna make things worse, but i just .. had to? Anyway we haven't had sex yet, and she really wants me to be her "first" (she's a virgin) and she still thinks I am. But recently me and this new girl just had sex. Soo my ex still wants to have sex with me and I still care about her, so I don't know how to tell her "no" without her freaking out and going insane. I want to get rid of her but still keep our friendship.

Any thought/suggestions/ideas on this?

Thanks alot!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ah, this is pretty damn dicey, indeed.

You want to still be friends with her? Let me share a story: I tried the same thing with my last girlfriend, and ended up having her over for a movie or something because I was bored, and ended up having sex with her again and things degenerated once more.

You need to firmly tell her 'no'. Look her right in the eyes - do it in person, alone with her - and tell her 'no'. You tell her 'no' as many times as she asks. If she is a smart girl, eventually she'll get the hint.

If all else fails, come right out and tell her you're nailing someone else. This will piss her off immeasurably, but it WILL get her to go away - you ain't gunna be friends with her after that one, though.:)
 

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hold on, this girl wants to have sex with you, but you just wanna be freinds??

wot kinda alternative universe do u liv in??? :woo:
 

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he obviously has his game in order, i don't think he is a sex-fiend when he can get it elsewhere.
plus, who wnats to deal with that blood?lol
nah, but i think he doesn't want her to become emotionally attached afterwards..

But if you're going to tell her ur boning someone else...might as well jsut take ehr v-card and THEN tell her. u get sex. :)
 

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Originally posted by Patrick124
he obviously has his game in order, i don't think he is a sex-fiend when he can get it elsewhere.
plus, who wnats to deal with that blood?lol
nah, but i think he doesn't want her to become emotionally attached afterwards..

But if you're going to tell her ur boning someone else...might as well jsut take ehr v-card and THEN tell her. u get sex. :)
Well I was thinking that .. but I donno .. I donno if I want to do that to this new girl. She already found out I was foolin around with the ex even after we broke up and I was with the new girl. Luckily she really likes me and put that in the past. So I don't know if I want to do that again. Plus. The ex's best friend is my new chicks brothers girlfriend. Haha make sense? And she is ratting me out everything I do. So if I took my ex's v-card. that would be a definate tell to the best friend .. who would then tell the new chick. **** you are probably all confused now haha!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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